Everyone who ever lost a pound thinks they know it all.

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

Family members and close friends are trickier because they really want to hash it out. "Thanks for loving me, but I am tired of defending my choice."

I'd love some more advice about dealing with people who are sure they know what is best for me.

QB

Great comeback: "Thanks for loving me, but I am DONE defending my choice."

Here are a few others you can combine / alter as you find helpful:

"Next subject."

"I won't talk about this anymore."

"If we're going to remain friends, you can't ever bring this subject up again. Do you understand me?"

"I don't care what you think."

"You've mistaken me for someone who cares what anyone else thinks about this."

"This is none of your business."

"You're being intentionally rude. And now so will I. Shut up."

"I won't discuss this anymore."

While opening your door, "Please leave."

"I'm leaving. Goodbye."

"Police? I'd like to report someone who's harassing me and who refuses to leave my home. I'm at 103 Elm Street. Yes, please send someone over immediately. Yes, I would like to file charges."

[playlikeworldchamps 595]

That is very rude of the person who kept annoying you with their opinion. Unfortunately some people are not well informed about WLS but think they are. I kept my surgery to myself before I had it because I didn't want to deal with the misinformed nor the well intention who THOUGHt they were informed. But since you are taking another approach, one thing I would suggest is just to say "thanks, but my medical situation is personal and I am working with a full medical team, and have done my research. But thanks for your concern. Now, how 'bout those blah blah blah " change the subject and if they don't get the hint this time drop 'em) ????

[BLERDgirl 6,417]

Your story is unbelievable! I think it is boardering harrassment.

I have the same problem with friends and family trying to talk me out of it and recommending all the things they have tried. I am so tired explaining why my body doesn't respond the same way as theirs etc and all the things I already tried. They think Portion Control and exercise is the answer. I am happy that works for them and wish that worked for me.

I am so tired of repeatedly justifying and coming back with responses to all their suggestions.

Some are mothers of my kids' friends, and maybe if I just had a good comeback, that might work.

Family members and close friends are trickier because they really want to hash it out. "Thanks for loving me, but I am tired of defending my choice."

I'd love some more advice about dealing with people who are sure they know what is best for me.

QB

Simply say, "It's my choice, I've done my research and I know what I'm doing." I even go further and let them know I am no longer discussing this. Then anytime they try and bring it up I remind them that I am no longer discussing it.

Simply put, I shut it down every time. Eventually they get the hint.

[Brn2blossom 88]

My sister in law offered to pay for the 30/10 weight loss thing for me. It was crazy cause it costs more then what im going to have to pay for the surgery. I really hate going into the whole story of my weightloss history, i wish they would take our declining and stop. But no, they feel they are saving us from something horrible I guess.