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I had a woman at my office say to me "What are you doing, you are losing so much weight!" I told her that I go to the gym 5x per week for at least an hour if not more, and that I log everything I eat in my fitness pal - this is the absolute truth. I do work my ass off at the gym and I do log all my food. She has no idea I had surgery, and I plan to keep it that way. A couple of people here do know, but I trust them not to blab all my business.

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I told work my recent labs were very troublesome and that I had to have surgery for the hernia repair. I also had ulcers on my stomach and my blood work was truly high on all the bad numbers. So I let them know I was making major changes to turn around all of my numbers and that's it.

At an office birthday when I declined a piece of cake the boss said "look at how disciplined you are". And I said I have to be ...

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@zanesmom I told my sisters the same thing! They're so judgemental I wasn't comfortable telling them. After my weight loss they are always questioning me it's anoying! God luck!

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I've shared about my surgery at work, but only with a few people in my personal life (I work in another city and my two "groups" are very separate". I have been surprised to find that my coworkers have been more supportive and less judgmental than my close friends and family. They encourage me to walk every day at lunch and have made sure there are options for me at our frequent office potlucks. There may be some unkind comments from the larger work community, but the support I've received from my office mates has outweighed any negativity. Before I decided to share, I had planned to inform anyone who asked that I was on a portion controlled, low-carb diet - and boy is that ever true! :)

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I told everyone I worked with and many were curious. All were supportive. Several co-workers even visited me in the hospital. I gladly answered all kinds of questions from co-workers about my experience and journey so far. The only thing I said I wouldn't do is justify the surgery to anyone. And I'm delighted that no one has tried to put me in that position.

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I have shared with most of the people in my office. I work in a large building with many people. I am in contact with a lot of people everyday. I am 9 months out and down about 114 pounds. Even people I don't know will stop me an comment on how much I have lost. If I don't know them I don't offer an explanation, but everyone I do know has seen how hard I work at this and they know it is not the easy way out of being overweight. I exercise every day and avoiding the pitfalls of potluck food days. Like we were all told pre-op this is a tool and we will only get the results we want if we work hard. I think you will share with people you are comfortable with and it isn't anyone else's business.

Good Luck!

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I'm still on short term disability for my sleeve but when I return to work this isn't something I'd be sharing. In 2011 I had lapband and my coworkers were very judgmental. "Why would you do that?" Bc I need help with losing weight! Lol..I feel it may be better to keep this to only close family members and my spouse, at least I know they will support me and not whisper over to the next cubicle "You know she had weight loss surgery?"

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I told work and friends & family I went on a shake diet. It's true anyway for two weeks before. Worked out perfectly for me. Now I'm off the shakes & eating better & exercising. I have gotten to a of comments on how well I'm doing & how they see me walking before work & at lunch time.

I have told about 5-6 select people what I did and I will take it to the grave.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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