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I am two year post op and putting on weight. I need to get back on this site and refresh my memory. I wish I never stopped checking in on this support system daily.

Little by little, I fell back into poor eating habits. I never got on track with an exercise routine either. BIG MISTAKE.

I had my surgery in April and by early August I had lost 30+lbs. I wasn't impressed. Later in August I went on a 2 week trip to Europe that was strenuous walking. By the time mid-September rolled around I had lost another 40!!!! That exercise on vacation really kick started my weight loss! (did I learn from that? no)

Stress eating got the best of me and little by little I began eating more and more. More fats. Loads of sugar. ( I'm a sugar addict)

I pray to God I can shrink my tummy and get back on track. I have put back on half the weight.

Newbies.....stay the course. Do the work. I'd hate for you to fail as I have.

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Welcome and thank you for sharing. I sure you will get back on track. I just had my sleeve and indeed l am newbie. However, I know that you taken a brave step forward. Keep reaching out.

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fell back into old eating habits

@@jena530

sorry you've tripped, fallen alittle :wacko:

glad to see your pretty face and smile again :)

you are aware/want to get back on the program

i "think" theres some expression - "knowing the problem is 1/2 the battle"???

something like that :blink:

OMG you are NOT A FAILURE!!!!

you made the wise decision some time back to have WLS

you successfully lost lots of weight :)

you are smart enough to realize you need to come back and talk to all us wonderful people :)

(especially me :lol: :lol: )

do you want to start from the beginning with shakes and stuff??

many people seem to start over if they have tripped

this might/probably will give you a heads up/fresh start/jump with losing a few lbs

you know all the steps/rules to what you are supposed to do

i always say the Water issue/rules are on top of the list

drink 64 oz of water

don't drink for 15-30 minutes before you eat

never drink with your meals

don't eat for 45-60 minutes after you eat

i hope you have a NUT that you can see :blink:

if insurance doesn't cover, "maybe" you could splurge and talk to a nutritionalist once or twice

plus - listen to all your fellow lappers and sleevers (like me) :)

ask all your questions

you might need a refresher course - no prob

we're all here to help each other

we are a support group silly head ;)

All people who had WLS are similar despite procedure

we all want/need to lose weight - and keep it off for the rest of our healthier, happier, longer life :)

you have taken that first step getting back on the wagon :)

lets meet for drinks

i'm buying :o

water of course :lol:

good luck to you

kathy

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I couldn't find the source for the quote "Confession is good for the soul" so I 'll go with this one: Confession of errors is like a broom which sweeps away the dirt and leaves the surface brighter and clearer. I feel stronger for confession.

I am so glad you came back to visit us. There is strength in numbers. Welcome back.

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Here is my version of the very simple rules I have to follow if I want to get to my goal weight and stay healthy:

  • Consume 60-80 gm Protein per day and 60-80 oz of Clear liquids per day. Every day.
  • Do not drink anything for at least 30 minutes before a meal or snack. If you forget and do drink, re-set the timer and wait another 30 minutes before you eat.
  • Eat dense Protein first at every meal. If you have room, eat a very few bites of non-starchy veggie in addition.
  • Decide how many meals and/or protein Snacks you're going to have per day* (or how many calories) and stick to it. Every day.
  • Do not eat between meals.
  • Wait at least 30 minutes after every meal or snack before drinking anything. If your mouth gets really dry you could rinse after eating, brush your teeth or chew gum.
  • I avoid alcohol because I'm concerned it would decrease my ability to resist bad food choices.

Follow those rules at least 90% of the time, and you will succeed. For the other 10%, do not beat yourself up - just get back on the wagon immediately and Sleeve On!

* The two ways I know of to lose weight are 1) Low calorie; 2) Low carb. I chose low carb because I can eat more volume and I don't have to count calories - the Atkins diet. I eat every 4 hours (8a, 12n, 4p and 8p), and I keep my carb intake as low as humanly possible. Both factors contribute to my never being hungry for very long at a time.

Best wishes!

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Thank you for posting this. I think it's great for those of us getting started to really understand that this is not a magic bullet and that if we don't do the work, the surgery will not work. I know for me that there was a little voice in the back of my head that said if my stomach was smaller, I would automatically lose weight, no matter what I did.

But the truth is, that is crazy, food addiction thinking. I am on a pre-op plan and have to lose like 15 pounds to be approved for surgery. I've tried to do exactly what I've been told, eat balanced meals, no snacking and exercise. I have lost half the weight I need to lose without counting a single calorie. That is very freeing for someone who has counted calories her whole life. It shows me that if I maintain these habits, I will be successful post op.

Everyone has given you all the tips and you probably already knew what you were supposed to do. Now, it's just a matter of putting what you know will make you successful into practice. Start small if you have to with slowly cutting out grazing and doing some walking 3 days a week. You'll see results from the small changes and it will prompt you to keep making changes. Best of luck and welcome back.

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Thank you so very much everyone! I'm so touched by your thoughtfulness and support.

For the newbies: I had an immediate realization after my surgery. Post-op you are instantly faced with needing to realize there's two types of hungry. 1st is Head Hunger. 2nd is Actual Hunger.

I am a compulsive eater. I always feel the need to be chewing on something. Head hunger.

I pray you can 'tune into' the difference quickly. The more honest you can be with this, the more successful you'll be :-)

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I think this is something we all think about. After the big loss and reaching our goal, how do we avoid falling back into our old routines. I hope I can stay strong and keep with the program forever, but I know I can never allow myself to lose my current mindset to accomplish that. Luckily I have my wife to help me out, which will be a major factor.

But only time will tell.

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Oh my goodness I can completely relate to this!! At 2 years out, I've completely lost track! You are so not alone!

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@@jena530 Thank you for sharing your story. I have started researching and joined this site today - and I'm feeling like a sponge absorbing everyone's posts and my mind is reeling with information.

All the best. I wish you a peaceful weight loss journey. :)

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Thank you for taking time to tell your story. I am a "newbie" so I have no advice better than what has already been given. I just wanted to say thank you and you can definitely get back on track.

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@@LadyPullings - me too my friend! I just started researching, but I know this is the path I want to take. All the best! ;)

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I'm a year and a bit out, and I feel this way too. I feel like I can't stop eating and my restriction is way down. Bad food choices, sugar addiction.

I haven't regained anything but if I don't get on track, I know it'll happen. Thank you for reaching out!

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