I Really Don't Get It

[BitterSweet* 835]

I happened to mention to my mother that I was a candidate for weight loss sugery and she swiftly reminded me of a cousin who died from it. The responses you get from people will hardly ever be filled with joy. There will always be stories of someone who died, someone who never lost weight, someone who took the easy way out by having surgery etc. It irritated me that my mother said that to me, especially since she taught me everything that I know about food addiction and really doesn't know what caused my cousin's death.

What I do know is that getting a gastric sleeve is not going to fix my brain. That's why it's referred to as a tool and nothing more. There are people who fail at weight loss surgery, but we all know that it's not the surgery that fails them - it's a return to the same destructive patterns that got them fat in the first place.

If you do what you've always done, you will be who you always are. The real question is not whether the surgery will work for you, but have you done the work on yourself (on your brain and in your heart) to stop doing what you've always done.

You can succeed at this if you have done the legwork and are well prepared to do the afterwork.

[angieprks 19]

@@lastingdreams @@Urbanlamb we all had our surgeries on the 18th!!! And to @@lastingdreams I to compare my numbers when I look at others profiles lol.

So my favorite response from someone when they found out I was having WLS. Is "why don't you just go on the biggest loser or something?" My response "oh I never thought of that" as I walked away..... LOL people are ignorant especially when they have no idea what you are going through.

[sa1976 221]

I think everyone has the fear that they will fail. I do not think like that. I just remind myself that WLS is a tool. It is not a miracle. I am happy. My whole life I would work

Hard and loose a lot of weight. One year I worked hard and I lost 85lbs. I see the sleeve as a tool that will help me control my eating to help me keep the weight off. My nutritionist says it is the tool to help with maintenance.

So do not get discourage. Just think positive!!! This surgery for me is going yo help me get off my blood pressure medicine and save my kidneys.

[RJ'S/beginning 5,358]

@@lastingdreams @@Urbanlamb we all had our surgeries on the 18th!!! And to @@lastingdreams I to compare my numbers when I look at others profiles lol.

So my favorite response from someone when they found out I was having WLS. Is "why don't you just go on the biggest loser or something?" My response "oh I never thought of that" as I walked away..... LOL people are ignorant especially when they have no idea what you are going through.

I think my response would have not even been the slightest bit polite....I would have told them ' why don't you just go and ------------ yourself. That is the rudest thing I have ever heard.....

Here is a better reply. I have already been the biggest loser the day I met you. You arse! boy am I steamed over this comment by this fool!

Edited August 27, 2014 by RJ'S/beginning

[Urbanlamb 56]

I think my response would have not even been the slightest bit polite....I would have told them ' why don't you just go and ------------ yourself. That is the rudest thing I have ever heard.....

Here is a better reply. I have already been the biggest loser the day I met you. You arse! boy am I steamed over this comment by this fool!

Oh you made me laugh!! *hugs* You're such a darlin'