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I'm sorry to hear about your experience with your Water aerobics instructor. I too, have been taking Water aerobics for more than a year 4-6 classes a week and have not been able to lose the weight. I have to bite my tongue not to mention it to people like those at the Y who often discourage weight loss surgery.

I have been denied surgery and am currently waiting on a reply to my appeal. It is very frustrating to have people look down on you after you've done the research and the work prior to your decision to try and loss the weight and finally think you've made the right choice only to be greeted with such negativity.

So sorry you've been denied. Good luck on your appeal!

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If anyone said that to me, I probably could not resist the urge to snap at them, saying something like, "Really? Just diet and exercise. Thank you! I've never heard that before. Not ever."

At this point, really, I don't have patience for ignorant comments.

i think for people who have never had a weight problem, this is a reasonable question.

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It is funny that you mentioned that. I was thinking about that today when I finished Spinning class. Then I thought it us none of her business. I am going to tell her I am having surgery and when I am cleared to come back to spinning. I will be back. This is my journey no one else's. I am tired of worrying about what others think. If I spend my time doing that I could be dead or have a heart attack. The people who matter know and they have seen me lose weight and gain it back. The maintenance part of weight loss is the hardest. Some people do not understand.

- sorry just needed to vent.

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that is too bad. I guess that is why I am telling nobody but my wife.... misinformation seems to be the true enemy. best of luck next week!!!

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Years ago at Assertiveness Skills classes I learned the value of the phrase "No offense, but .... " said in a very calm and polite tone.

Examples: "No offense, but suggesting I lose weight with diet and exercise is rather insulting. I'm an intelligent person and I'm aware of all the conventional ways to lose weight."

Or: "No offense, but although you're entitled to your opinion, my decision to have WLS is a personal one and not up for discussion."

Or even: "No offense, but I would prefer that you keep your thoughts on the matter to yourself."

And then either change the subject or walk away.

Only my husband and one close friend know I'm having surgery. Post-op I think I'll have to deal with some comments, once the rapid loss becomes obvious. We live in a senior condo community; my husband and I are mind-our-own-business types, but some of our neighbors are real busybodies.

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What I've never understood is that it seems to be fine to talk about your facelift, botox and boob job, that's all well and good, but having WLS is some kind of failure and it makes people uncomfortable.

I was banded in 2009 (it's slipped and I'm working through the process to revise to a sleeve). I found that it worked for me not to volunteer anything, but if someone asked me directly I told them. Most of those people were waiting for me to give them some divine secret so they could lose weight too.

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Yes.I only told my immediate family and my supervisor. We work for a large hospital so a patient's privacy is super important.and against the law to share.so I knew that if anyone else at work found out.they would be a legal issue. The day I was approved I called my older sister and the first words out of her mouth were, "oh you're cheating"---- that kinda set mr up to receive more negative feedback..and I didn't want that.I wish I could tell everyone I know because iam so excited with my journey to.date, but I can't...so it is what it is.When they ask me how I've lost weight. I tell them the truth, I cut out alot of food types amd alchohol in my diet.no more fast food 4 dayd a week.and I am more active.and I eat alot less..all are true.so iam so happy to have found.this site.it is so helpful to me to.have an outlet to discuss this big.life changing part of my life.HW-252 start weight-211 SW-190 CW-119 surgery date 7-3-13. :-)

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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