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I had my sleve in aug last year i did great going from 275 down to 195 an then i started to slip like i alway do i put my head in the sand as i slip back into bad eating habits i changed jobs driving over the road but it started eating bad before this i called the DR. today this is my first step to stoping this an i am on there for the first time in a long time Doug from Michigan thanks for listening

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I applaud you for going back to the doctor. At my doctor's support group last week we talked about how people are embarrassed to come back if they have gained some and the doctor said he LOVES when people come back and he can help them get back on track. They WANT you to be successful!

I hope the best for you!

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You can do this!!! You going back to the doctor and asking for help is the first step! I'm just starting out, but I know that I'll probably slip sometime down the road, but I have to keep my eye on the prize and remember all the sacrifices involved. Keep the faith, you'll be right back on track. Best of luck to you and God bless :)

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You've taken the first big step in going back to your doctor.

Trucking making it very difficult to eat right, but if you plan ahead, you CAN do it! Bring a cooler with some cheese sticks, greek yogurt, maybe the mixings for Protein Shakes. If you have to eat at a restaurant, choose veggies and Protein. Drink lots of Water. Walk whenever you can, whether it's while waiting to get loaded/unloaded, or before crawling into the bunk for the night.

You didn't go through major surgery to slip backwards.... move forward, and think positive! You can do this!!!

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Thanks its like it just hit hit me what the h am I doing I do need help they say they worked on my stomach now its time to work on the brain thanks again

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I am still pre surgery but I know one of the things I have to do is get rid of "All or nothing" thinking. I have chronic illnesses so when I "mess up" (don't walk as much as I want, eat bad, etc.) I tend to say "F*ck it" and stop walking all together or eat garbage for a month or two. I'm trying to deal with that before surgery. Sigh. Good luck to you. I think the first step isn't the hardest, it's the first step after things go wrong!

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I had a similar experience. At about 8 months post op I really started to struggle emotionally and it was reflecting in my eating again. I began to let bad habits and emotional eating back in. I realized what you said, that I had done the physical work, but I hadn't done any emotional work. For me, I really started to dig in and try to figure out what was behind my compulsive over-eating that led me to obesity in the first place. If you are able, a therapist that deals with bariatric or eating disorder patients might be worth looking into. I started working with one, and it has been life-changing. If you are not ready to take that step, I highly recommend the book "when food is love". It helped me start to untangle the really complicated relationship between emotions and eating.

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I am still pre surgery but I know one of the things I have to do is get rid of "All or nothing" thinking. I have chronic illnesses so when I "mess up" (don't walk as much as I want, eat bad, etc.) I tend to say "F*ck it" and stop walking all together or eat garbage for a month or two. I'm trying to deal with that before surgery. Sigh. Good luck to you. I think the first step isn't the hardest, it's the first step after things go wrong!

This is really insightful. I think it's great that you recognize that even before surgery. That is something I definitely struggle with. I think you are going to be very successful! :-)

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I had a similar experience. At about 8 months post op I really started to struggle emotionally and it was reflecting in my eating again. I began to let bad habits and emotional eating back in. I realized what you said, that I had done the physical work, but I hadn't done any emotional work. For me, I really started to dig in and try to figure out what was behind my compulsive over-eating that led me to obesity in the first place. If you are able, a therapist that deals with bariatric or eating disorder patients might be worth looking into. I started working with one, and it has been life-changing. If you are not ready to take that step, I highly recommend the book "when food is love". It helped me start to untangle the really complicated relationship between emotions and eating.

Great advice with therapy. .I'm in a better place now then ever...2 yrs of therapy helped tremendously. ..sometimes we have to differentiate between a true hunger feeling,emotional eating for comfort or we are just addicted to food. Great thought! Helped me to...:)

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