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IF YOU COULD tell yourself this 1 thing BEFORE U HAD SURGERY what would THAT BE?



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No it is fair to say there is little risk involved. I think an intelligent person will do the work of learning everything they can about WLS. Including the good the bad and the ugly. We can in no way guess what experience we may have but in all good intentions we want the best experience for everyone on this forum and for those who are not.

It does not always end up that way and to take a blind eye to the possibilities is not doing your research. @@ChavaBling I think we must be prepared for as much of the possibilities as we can and then deal with what does or does not happen in our journey! :)

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Dredging the very depths of my 40+ year old schoolgirl Latin, I'd say:

Haec et olim meminisse juvabit

One day we shall laugh to remember even this.

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Thank you Cindy , you made me smile I glad they are good people here. That can support and lift us when we are down god bless you if you don't mind I would love to keep in touch with you ,god bless you Cindy you made my day

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Get a good therapist. Now. Because you won't be able to rely on food anymore to bury your emotional insecurities.

Remember to be patient... this too shall pass.

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Don't even try the chocolate. Just don't. Not even one bite. Don't. Do. It.

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As a Bander....I wish I could have told myself not to take the first 4-6 months as though that's the way it was going to be...RELAX.....it's only a phase of adjustments to get through, as hellish as it is, it will get easier and easier....

I wish someone, anyone would have told me that....

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I think it would be to work on not having the same personality after surgery as I had before. the guilt etc. that feeling full is okay. doesn't mean I would gain weight just because I am satisfied. still working on this. and its been a year.

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QUESTION: IF YOU could tell your pre-op self ONE THING, ONE word of advise, something that you WISH SOMEONE WOULD have told you... WHAT WOULD IT BE???

You have a limited window - maximize your efforts in exercise and eating (the naughty stuff will still be there once your window has ended).

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Patience.....change takes time and not just physically but also mentally. Fall down 4 times then get up 5 times and keep going.

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Start working on your disordered eating now.

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Agree with other posters-- don't compare your results to others. I lost slow and steady. It's not a race :)

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Thanks everyone for your support , we are truly a family here

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MARY CADE, You have a zillion people here who support you, we all have had a similar journey and got

to the other side just fine. You will too. If this is any help , I was exactly your weight 2.5 years ago on the day of surgery. I am now a healthy 160 lbs and look and feel VERY healthy. My stomach problems, sleep apnea and constant tiredness are GONE ! This morning I went running 2 miles ( SLOOOOOOWLY), am wearing cute size 10 clothes, and have energy to burn. My husband thinks im hot, and I dont mind the looks from the cute guys either ! ( Im married, not dead ! ) You can do this !

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The one thing I would say and will say is BELEIVE!

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That first few days will be very tough, but that struggle will be worth it.

That this really is major surgery, and it will hurt.

That all of this will be worth it soon...

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      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
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    • Doughgurl

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      1. Selina333

        I'm so happy for you! You are about to change your life. I was so glad to get the sleeve done in Dec. I didn't have feelings of regret overall. And I'm down almost 60 lbs. I do feel a little sad at restaurants. I can barely eat half a kid's meal. I get adults meals often because kid ones don't have the same offerings at times. Then I feel obligated to eat on that until it's gone and that can be days. So the restaurant thing isn't great for me. All the rest is fine by me! I love feeling full with very little. I do wish I could drink when eating. And will sip at the end. Just a strong habit to stop. But I'm working on it! You will do fine! Just keep focused on your desire to be different. Not better or worse. But different. I am happy both ways but my low back doesn't like me that heavy. So I listened (also my feet!). LOL! Update us on your journey! I'm not far from you. I'm in Houston. Good luck and I hope it all goes smoothly! Would love to see pics of the town you go to for this. I've never been there. Neat you will be traveling for this! Enjoy the journey. Take it one day at a time. Sometimes a few hours at a time. Follow all recommendations as best you can. 💗

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
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