Banders #6

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,722]

why wouldnt he be interested?

just tell him if he hurts you, there are some bad ass bikers down south who will whip his ass......

[JustWatchMe 7,117]

I'm so glad you had fun! Woo hoo!

[SillyAuntDi 1,610]

My friends...today is my one-year bandiversary!!!! I have posted a long post out there but I want to come here and talk to my buddies...my life lines...you guys rock! I couldn't love you more if you were sitting next to me. You have been there supporting me this year and I am determined to be there to support others in the same way.

Look at this picture from this morning!

Those are the jeans I was wearing last summer!!! I fit in ONE LEG!

So, thanks. I appreciate every single one of you

Diane

[lisacaron 5,075]

OMG!! I just fell off the couch I'm laughing so hard! You are something else girl!! No..he didn't get any tongue. Can't give it all away on the first date now, can I?

Hell yes you can!

[lisacaron 5,075]

@@SillyAuntDi you rock D!!!!

[JustWatchMe 7,117]

@@SillyAuntDi, you're amazing!

[Bandista 7,466]

@@SillyAuntDi you look fantastic! And so happy -- now to go find your other post. You are a wonderful friend to have here -- we have such a nice little sub-group of supporters.

GoWalking, yippee! You know when you know. Re: dating, I always think of Bridget Jones at that moment when she realizes she has the big mommy underwear on -- just think, no more giant undies for us! And shape wear could be awkward, too -- like a boomerang across the room could happen. Yikes.

Lisa, insightful Lisa -- love it that you are turning your amazing energy and light on yourself. It's hard to choose ourselves first. I use it as a mantra, say it aloud over and over. It's always been me last and never getting there -- now that I put myself at the top of the totem pole (thank you WLS!) every one else benefits. Not that that's the point -- the point is Put Ourselves First! We are not selfish in doing that -- just saving our own lives and living fully the way we deserve to -- I still have to remind myself of that twenty-five times a day. Childhood was so much about being seen and not heard (well, not really seen either) and do not get carried away with yourself. The result is a self-esteem drop out. I'm very grateful to have dropped back in to my own happiness and to be showing up for myself. I had no idea how amazing I am and what I was missing. People would tell me but I didn't believe them because I didn't believe in myself first. Well, now I do.

[dylanmiles23 2,198]

I was in bed and reading this morning's posts. Thank you for the great laughs. I have been very down lately and this was great!

GoWalking, enjoy yourself, just remember we all want to be bride's maids. I have never ever been one, so it's not to late for me.

Everyone have a great day.

Arlene

[readysetg070113 1,476]

Today my friends I have thoughts of commitment and support on my mind. Looking up the word Commitment you can define and live it in two ways:

1. the state or quality of being dedicated to a cause, activity, etc.

2. an engagement or obligation that restricts freedom of action.

I like to think that I live my life according to the first definition of the word. I am a very committed person. When I make a promise or say I am going to do something I do it. No matter how many obstacles are in my way I find a way around over under through them. Yes I can pull blood from a stone, I have done it!

What I realized is that I do all these things for everything and everyone but myself! When it comes to me to Lisa, the definition that best defines me is number 2. I commit myself to so much that I am a prisoner of my own dedication. I have been committed like someone who is locked up only I punished myself and I committed (check it out there is that word again!) no crime. Then again...I have committed (that word again) the biggest of crimes against myself!

This is my trap. I know better, trust me friends I really do. I can talk circles around why this and that, and make excuses for all the things in my life and you would all sit there and say but hey those are good reasons! In fact they are reasons that if I sat here and told you about them you might even think I was writing a novel and making this **** up, but trust me I would tell you that I only wish I was.

There are days when I feel like I have PTSD just from all the events I have had to deal with and I still keep going even when I want just throw a tantrum. So over the past few weeks I have been going a bit off the rails either not eating anything, or just giving into that temptation for this freaking ice cream I found that I love and am now addicted to. I'm sure it's because it's summer it's been hot and I have been super bummed.

I don't know if I have lost any weight, I don't think I have gained any either but that's not the point. I am not taking care of myself. Woman can't live on Ice-cream and pistachio nuts alone. If you would meet me on the street today or at work today or even speak to me on the phone...ladies and gents you would never know or be able to tell...maybe if you knew me "really" well you might see something in my eyes but I am so practiced at this poker face I should go back to being a Casino dealer! (Yes I may be only 43 but I have had more carriers and "adventures" in my life then most people who live to be 90 maybe the next one should be as a writer where I put it all out there...maybe someday)

I'm putting this all out there today, because I need to break the chains of commitment I need to redefine this for myself. So I started looking and thinking about what the word SUPPORT means.

By definition:

As a Verb Support means:

1. bear all or part of the weight of; hold up.

2. give assistance to, especially financially; enable to function or act.

As a Noun:

1. a thing that bears the weight of something or keeps it upright.

2. material assistance.

Now oddly enough these two things whether they are actions or descriptions are pretty much the same. I find that I fall into both of those categories and would define myself again more as number 1 then number 2 but I can identify with both and often times I am both and I am doing both!! I'm not sure what is worse!!

Today I define myself as being committed to being the support for everything and everyone but myself!!

This is an observation not a complaint.It's an observation I have made before but never with such definition and clarity when it comes to myself. Mostly I just see it and move on and keep on keeping on for the sake of all that needs to be done and someone to do it. Who nominated me Wonder Woman? I don't live on Paradise Island and I don't have an invisible jet to fly away when I need a break....or do I?

Maybe that's my problem...maybe I just forgot where I parked that b***h!! So maybe that's my ticket, I need to put down the ice cream bar untangle that lasso from around myself and stop trying to save the world single handed!

I need to stop trying to be the one that does everything all the time, and try to remember that I am human and not some super hero. My strong points are not asking for help, I'm better at doing it for myself then I am at asking for help. I think it's because I have been let down and disappointed so often that I don't feel the need to put my hand out there just to have it be left hanging or worse bitten off. It's not a fear, because I would not be sitting here writing this long ass post. I am out of practice, and I don't know about you all but do you find that people in the world today are just not willing to be committed and supportive of each other?

I don't mean just here on our WLS boards, if I thought that I would not be posting this here or sharing this with you all I'm just speaking in general in all phases and scopes of life out there. I think I have become hardened to believe that the only person you can count on is yourself, and you just can't rely on or depend on others....finding truly committed supportive people is like finding diamonds in the rough.

Thank you all my gems here for reading these very personal revelations as long as this post is...and for offering all your insights. This is one of the few places I feel that I am able to open up and be more vulnerable, and share what my deepest thoughts are. My hubs is amazing but it's not healthy to always unload all my frustrations on him, and honestly he suffers from these conditions as much as I do.

We need to redefine commitment and support in our lives, and start applying that same level to ourselves as we do for others. We have it on lock in our relationship with each other, it's the relationships we have in the world with work, and family and other commitments (ah that word is everywhere in my life!) and my big issue is using food to medicate and balm the wounds of disappointment that I need help with.

I'm guilty of bad habits friends...not eating, not taking care of my body's nutritional needs, the need for proper rest and exercise, and eating things that while they aren't "bad" aren't good for me either.

Thanks for writing this this sounds like I could of wrote in I'm in the same boat

[intelirish 714]

My one year banaverisay is next week on the 19th to Celebrate I will be getting on a plane to go home. it has been 2 1/2 years since i last went home and spent a very uncomfortable 10+ hrs in a seat that didn't quite accommodate everything i had to share This time while i'm not looking forward to a total of 19+ hrs in the air.. i at least know i'll fit the darn seat this time....

just hoping my single package Protein shakes get here in time

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,722]

its friday.....thank heavens

by the look of things already here at work... i need both of these

[Bandista 7,466]

Beautiful Friday here -- big walk this AM and then headed to the city for a couple of errands and appointments. About an hour and a half drive so I have smeared joints with new arthritis prescription gel. Topical anti inflammatory which I hope won't interfere with my band in any way. Fun to get out of rural living for a day. Tomorrow my first 5K then a benefit dance that evening, eeek! I will be fast walking not running and I hope there's not a lot of embarrassing cheering for those at the end. I may be able to lap a jogger or two as I can really book it even while just walking. We will see! But out in public and everything -- just who exactly has taken over my body?

Irish, you're going to have a wonderful trip. I picture you clicking and unclicking the airline seatbelt and squirming around with all the room in your sear just for the fun of it. Wait til your family sees you, too -- happy reunion and cheers to good health!

[JustWatchMe 7,117]

@@Bandista, a 5k! Wow! Hey take those cheers and clapping. You deserve them! You've inspired me today. I need to up my exercise, crappy knees and all.

[readysetg070113 1,476]

@@SillyAuntDi looking awesome

@intellirish I use the containers u can put powder formula in it has 3 compartments n a spout . I put my go to Protein Powder in and throw on my bag so I have ready to serve serve

[Bandista 7,466]

Happy Monday, everyone! 5K was great and I'm looking around for another. Tonight a Zumba class. Did the first last week and hope I start to learn some of the steps, cha cha cha. It was a fun way to get exercise and the hour went by fast. A pretty irreverent group so lots of laughter. Having a mini-fast today (5:2 plan) and looking forward to a productive office day.