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I was sleeved April 4, 2014. I have lost 57 pounds since my pre-op diet. I am really getting nervous that I am going to stretch out my sleeve and fail miserably. I find myself cheating, here and there. I get so mad and disappointed in myself! It's a slippery path downward... And I am going down! I am struggling to accept my new relationship with food. I find myself eating just because I haven't eaten and not because I am hungry. I don't want to fail at this...

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I hear you. I'm about ten weeks post op. It's hard. It really is easy to eat a lot of calories when you are eating the wrong stuff. I has my first emotional eating day today, but tomorrow I am going to get up and start all over again. That's all you can do really.

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There is a pill that is just for this situation and will prevent you from eating under these exact circumstances..........!!!

Nooo.......of course there isn't......but I guess that is what you wanted to hear.

What is it exactly you want anyone else to do??? You've already been at this awhile. You know what the routine is. You even state that you are not hungry and you are aware the cheating is going to cause you to fail. And yet you do it anyway.

So my guess is if you don't wise up and change your attitude, you will most certainly fail. There is nothing anyone else can do about it. It's all on you.

Either get with the program and do what you know you have to do, or you will have gone thru all this for nothing and will become one of the statistics that it didn't work for.

Sorry if this is not what you expected to hear. But sugar coating it won't change the outcome. - Good Luck. <_<

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You have lost more than me post op with the same date? Why are you concerned your off track? Are you tracking your food? If not how do you know you are going overboard? Do you eat Protein first? If you aren't... start! Are you getting your Water in?

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Ditto to what recycled said. You need to own up to this and take responsibility for your actions and decision to have surgery. Did you have psych consults before surgery? Did they not cover the lifestyle changes you have to make and how to deal with them? Does your surgeons office offer therapy or support groups? I suggest getting help with your food issues because 2 months out is way too soon to already be falling into bad habits, and it's only going to get worse.

If you did not or do not have access to professional counseling, I would suggest at least reading some appropriate literature. There are plenty of books out there that can help get your mind where it needs to be, if you are willing to work at it. Don't waste this opportunity.

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Thank you for this thread. The "tough love" responses are what I needed to read. Seeing that I am not the only one struggling lets me know I am not alone in my struggle.

I have to get it together. I am 5 weeks out and I am NOT doing the right thing lately.

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There are some books that helped me:

"Emotional First + Aid Kit: A Practical Guide to Life After Bariatric Surgery" by Cynthia Alexander - this one helped me the most. It helps you separate emotions from eating; also, to set up your environment to minimize eating what you have a hard time staying away from.

"From the First Bite" by Kay Sheppard

"The Bariatric Foodie Guide to Perfect Protein Shakes"

Hope these help!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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