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Hello wonderful community, it has been a while since i have participated. I had my sleeve on February 4th, I am healing well, and doing well overall. My weight loss is slow but steady.

I have been focusing on my new eating habits, exercise program and staying connected to my husband who i see less and less these days.

I have been feeling a bit lost and angry, my coworkers and friends don't know what i am going through how hard it is to not drink liquids with meals, how sad it can be to go out to dinner and know that i eat a 10th of what they will and that it will make them uncomfortable. How hard it is to be afraid that at some point i might lose control and find that i will gain weight. How its difficult to not recognize my body in a mirror. This journey is not easy and i doing it, and i want to know how yours is.

I am here to reconnect to this community, I am a bit lost please say hello and share some of your journey.

PS.

I know I sound a bit lost but honestly overall i am doing great, it's just hard.

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Glad to see you here again @@IzzyBelle Seems to me that life is ticking a long as it should. Nothing comes easy that is worth working for right...We all know that.....There are a lot of good people on here that can encourage you and who like you have experienced a lot of what you are feeling and dealing with....

Stick around and talk about your worries and concerns and we will do our best to make you remember why you were here before..... :)

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getting through the emotional past of this surgery is hard even if we are doing well. went i went to see my PCP about six weeks after the surgery, she commented, "you've had life changing surgery! of course you feel lost sometimes!" she was exactly right. i was struggling to learn how to have a different life and a different me. its not easy.

but you can get through it. you've got this and its only going to get better. start looking for people locally who are interested in health, healthy eating and exercise. a new life needs people who share the same new goals you have now. you're doing great.

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Hey Girl, glad you are here and sharing your thoughts. I felt sheepish eating so little at first, and at first it was VERY little. Now that's normal for me. I am thrilled to be so satisfied with so little.

For me the emotional toll of being heavy and wanting a diet that would work, and to feel successful with weight loss felt unobtainable. The resulting successes and relative ease has been nothing short of amazing for me. They told me that if I fixed the spiritual and the emotional, the physical would follow. Well, in my case, I'm much more loving to myself and more compassionate and caring to others as a result of the weight loss. It will get more real for you, and you will start to feel more normal with it all.

Hang in there. Spend some time being good to yourself. Keep talking cuz you're one of us now, and there are a lot of bus who care.

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