Hi everyone,

I have been on this forum a few months, but haven't really spoken up. I have just been like a sponge soaking up everyone's knowledge and experiences. I am so happy to say that I have been approved by BCBS for my sleeve surgery, and it will be on May 20th, which also happens to be my 8 year wedding anniversary! Anyway, I couldn't contain my excitement to start this new chapter in my life:-)

May 23rd here

Exactly why no one but human resource at my job and my mom & dad knows about my surgery that negative energy is no Bueno. If only you can depend on everyone to give well wishes.

Exactly.. So many people worried about what the surgery will do to my health... Um how about I'm 300 lbs, pre diabetic, constantly out of breath and uncomfortable ? People should be next to me with freaking Pom poms lol

Exactly.. So many people worried about what the surgery will do to my health... Um how about I'm 300 lbs, pre diabetic, constantly out of breath and uncomfortable ? People should be next to me with freaking Pom poms lol

Lol u agree. I prepared myself to keep it a secret after it's done. There is no why & how would you do it

Team 'May 20th sleevers' I just realized that at this time next week we'll all be out of surgery and recovering all ready...is it me or is that kinda crazy?! I can't believe it's so soon! Is everyone else kinda anxious/nervous? I didn't think I would be until the day before, but now I feel like it's all I can think about! Best of luck on all of your pre-op diets! We're on the home stretch...woooohoooo!!

I'm with you Danielle! I thought I'd be nervous the night before however, I can't seem to think about much of anything but next Tuesday! Trying to keep busy...cleaning cupboards, stocking up on Powerade, cleaning the Fridge, reading and re-reading my binder thinking by doing so I will know EXACTLY how slow to drink or eat knowing full well it will be a trial and error thing ha! Trial and error is ok....as long as it doesn't include vomiting lol!

Almost to the land of Oz and then I'll be clicking my heels...theres nothing like health and skinny 3 times until I fit into those size 10 jeans I bought! LETS GO!!!!!

Team 'May 20th sleevers' I just realized that at this time next week we'll all be out of surgery and recovering all ready...is it me or is that kinda crazy?! I can't believe it's so soon! Is everyone else kinda anxious/nervous? I didn't think I would be until the day before, but now I feel like it's all I can think about! Best of luck on all of your pre-op diets! We're on the home stretch...woooohoooo!!

Yay! It's almost here! lol I'm getting a little nervous, but I try not to think about it or I'll worry myself for no reason. My preop diet is going pretty good (once I got past day 4!) I haven't "cheated" any! My husband has been a great help this week! Hope everyone else is doing good!

May 28 is my date.

im May 28th too started my preop today so far so good

I thought I would never get through this week! Tuesday is just around the corner and I will be so busy at work Monday preparing for my absence that I know the time will fly by.

I've been reading a lot on these boards but haven't posted much other than to say that I am in the May 20th group for sleevers. I wanted to share something that I am struggling with and that is the two of my closest friends are significantly overweight. I feel like they are the ones that have supported me the least! When I told them both that I was getting the surgery, it seemed as though they tried to be supportive but both really had negative things to say. One expressed feeling as though the surgery is done for vanity reasons and another told me, "I haven't really seen you try anything else" and went on to tell me how incredibly difficult it will be and how she feels I am just looking for a quick fix. I felt like saying wait a minute - I'm the one who has been going to all of the appointments and tests and doing the footwork to learn about the procedure and the pre op diet ect. If there is one thing that I know, it is that i realize it won't be easy. at the end of the day though, I am just trying to be healthy.

I think one of the more difficult things for me with this will be that it seems as though my new healthier lifestyle will change my relationships with some of the people that I have been friends with. I feel completely judged by some of the people that I considered myself the closest too. Please help!!

I thought I would never get through this week! Tuesday is just around the corner and I will be so busy at work Monday preparing for my absence that I know the time will fly by. I've been reading a lot on these boards but haven't posted much other than to say that I am in the May 20th group for sleevers. I wanted to share something that I am struggling with and that is the two of my closest friends are significantly overweight. I feel like they are the ones that have supported me the least! When I told them both that I was getting the surgery, it seemed as though they tried to be supportive but both really had negative things to say. One expressed feeling as though the surgery is done for vanity reasons and another told me, "I haven't really seen you try anything else" and went on to tell me how incredibly difficult it will be and how she feels I am just looking for a quick fix. I felt like saying wait a minute - I'm the one who has been going to all of the appointments and tests and doing the footwork to learn about the procedure and the pre op diet ect. If there is one thing that I know, it is that i realize it won't be easy. at the end of the day though, I am just trying to be healthy. I think one of the more difficult things for me with this will be that it seems as though my new healthier lifestyle will change my relationships with some of the people that I have been friends with. I feel completely judged by some of the people that I considered myself the closest too. Please help!!

I'm so sorry to hear you are going through that! You will get lots of support on here! The truth of the matter is your friends are more than likely a little jealous, and a lot scared if the change that is to come . Soon you won't be overweight and unhealthy with them anymore.. You will be losing weight and feeling great, and they could very well be in the same spot they are now, and that's prob scary to them. You are actually doing something about it. T

Lord knows this is no quick fix or easy way out... I can't stand when people say this... Our lives are about to change forever... There are certain things we will never be able to do again. It takes a brave person to make this decision so kudos to you.

I actually haven't told ANYONE other than my husband , and certainly not my 128 lb BFF who will most certainly say YET again that I can do it on my own .

Your friends are probably a little worried about you too. People who don't educate themselves about the surgery are scared of the unknown...

I hope your friends come around:) I'm sure they will. In the meantime ... Be excited:) surgery in 4 days... Oh my goodness!!!

Hi, I'm sorry to hear that. The bottom line is people try to discourage you from things because most people are not brave enough to take the risks and steps necessary to change their lives. I have had people try to discourage me from many things that I've done in my life, from moving to another state to traveling abroad. When things are unfamiliar to people they fear it. It's definitely not the easier way out. It would be easier to go to the gym and work out, than to be put under anesthesia, be cut open, endure pain and recovery and still not be able to eat normally for two months.so not sure why people choose to say that. Unfortunately people are sometimes meant for a season in your life and no meant to be in your life forever. If they can't find it in There hearts to support you, you will have to let them go. Because you will change and you will be different. Physically, mentally and emotionally. But it's all for the betterment of your life. I don't care what they say about vanity. NO one wants to be fat. It's just reality....

Edited May 17, 201412 yr by cherrytree15

I was supposed to be may 20th but the original surgeon had a family emergency. Luckily his partner could fit me in on the 21st.

I thought I would never get through this week! Tuesday is just around the corner and I will be so busy at work Monday preparing for my absence that I know the time will fly by.<br><br> I've been reading a lot on these boards but haven't posted much other than to say that I am in the May 20th group for sleevers. I wanted to share something that I am struggling with and that is the two of my closest friends are significantly overweight. I feel like they are the ones that have supported me the least! When I told them both that I was getting the surgery, it seemed as though they tried to be supportive but both really had negative things to say. One expressed feeling as though the surgery is done for vanity reasons and another told me, "I haven't really seen you try anything else" and went on to tell me how incredibly difficult it will be and how she feels I am just looking for a quick fix. I felt like saying wait a minute - I'm the one who has been going to all of the appointments and tests and doing the footwork to learn about the procedure and the pre op diet ect. If there is one thing that I know, it is that i realize it won't be easy. at the end of the day though, I am just trying to be healthy.<br><br> I think one of the more difficult things for me with this will be that it seems as though my new healthier lifestyle will change my relationships with some of the people that I have been friends with. I feel completely judged by some of the people that I considered myself the closest too. Please help!!

Cara obviously I don't know your friends but I know people. Their comments are about them not you! Stand proud - you are doing something positive about your health and that takes guts :-)

I have surgery on the 19th of may. Im not telling anyone either.

I thought I was the only one who didn't tell. Everyone thinks I'm going out of town on vacation ! My mom, dad and children are the only ones who knows the truth.

May 20 here I come. So excited for a new me. Good luck everyone!

To the ones that say surgery is a quick, easy fix. It's not, it's a permeant lifestyle change, one that took careful thought before the decision to have the surgery and will require a lifetime's worth of "dieting". As for easy: please, dieting is easy. You get to just limit your food and increase your exercise and can stop anytime you want and have a feast of all your favorite foods anytime you want. With this wls, *I* am never going to be able to eat what I was before, in fact, most of my favorite foods I am rarely going to get to enjoy or have to give up completely.

To those that say you can do it on your own. Maybe it's possible to do on it's own but I know myself well enough to know that *I* can't do this without the right tools for success. *I* need the tool of wls if I am every going to be healthy.

To those that just want to be negative, *I* have doubts myself somedays and don't need you to add any more. What *I* do need is support, knowing that *I* am doing all I can to be healthy both physically and mentally. *I* need a cheerleader to encourage me to do my best. In the words of thumper (from Bambi) "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.".

To those that made this decision to have wls. Way to go! You can do it. This is about you and making you a healthy person. It's not going to be easy, and there will be time of longing for the past but in the end it will be worth it. Keep your head up and carry on.

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I did tell a few people myself that I was having the wls. Only heard a few negative comments but dismisses them as ignorant caring on their part. I know that this is going to be one of the best decisions of my life and it's less then a week away!