how to get it right

[marymary1234 14]

Now that ive been honest with myself and postponed my surgery date, I want to be on point...

Does anyone know how I can be the best me I can be? With everything surgery related?

Im starting over this minute.. I want this surgery but I cannot do it for the wrong reasons

Anyone who struggles with motivation, doing the right thing, etc comments welcome...

Suggestions to get it together appreciated

Thanks

[awold0 246]

Now that ive been honest with myself and postponed my surgery date, I want to be on point...

Does anyone know how I can be the best me I can be? With everything surgery related?

Im starting over this minute.. I want this surgery but I cannot do it for the wrong reasons

Anyone who struggles with motivation, doing the right thing, etc comments welcome...

Suggestions to get it together appreciated

Thanks

What are the wrong reasons for you?

[PdxMan 4,292]

Yeah ... I have to agree with awold ... you are looking for specific answers to an ambiguous question. If your intention is to start to get honest with yourself, then let's start here. You have been on here a couple months, now, so you should know this is a safe place. As surprising as it may sound to you, you are not unique in your struggles.

What is your background? What is going on?

[marymary1234 14]

I should already know my reasons, right? I have been really unskillful with all the negative behaviors.. I was really motivated at the beginning of the process.. please dont judge me..someone suggested I sabotaged it.. I do have mood issues.. I dont feel psychologically ready

[magtart 603]

I agree with the above. There has got to be more than what you are saying?

[CowgirlJane 14,260]

If you don't feel ready, I would trust your gut on that.

If you fear failure again - well - I suspect 100% of us had those same feelings. If you feel fearful of the surgery itself - well, lots of us had that too.

I do think a person has to be in a state of mind where getting control over their weight is a very high priority. This surgery demands alot from us... I am not talking about the first few weeks - I mean the forever.

I was banded in 2001 - well besides the fact that it was not a good "tool" for me, I also really did not understand what it would take.

By the time I was sleeved, I got it and I was just so OVER food as anything other than food.< /p>

This whole regaining your health thing has to be somewhere in your top priorities and you have to really keep your eye on the prize to get you through tough times.