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One of my main reasons for doing this...is for my kids. My date surgery will be 5/12. I would obviously like to be around as long as possible for them....but also to be a more active parent. Things like trips to the park, playing in the yard, walking around fairs, and Saturday markets, and weekend trips. I enjoy doing those thing with them...but now it feels like such a physical chore I find myself putting it off or cutting those events short.

I was wondering how many other folks did it with hopes of being a more active and involved parent, Did you experience an improvement in your parenting with your weight loss? Have your kids noticed or commented on improvements?

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Hi there. Congrats on getting your date.

There were many reasons I wanted to have surgery, but the major one was to be a better wife and mom. My son is active in many sports - he's 14 years old. I missed out on a lot and I was always so tired and cranky that I feel like he bonded more with my husband. That makes me sad.

So here I am now 5 months from surgery and 65 pounds lighter - I'm a much better wife and mom than I was even a few short months ago. I am much more active and I have a better attitude and am nicer/calmer.

My family life is much better. (there are other things that are great too, but, it is so worth it!)

Best of luck to you!

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I did this 100% for my daughter. I'm a single mom of a 7 yr old. Deathly afraid to leave her too soon. I'm 4 days post op and pretty miserable but in the end she is worth every drop of misery I feel right now.

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I for sure did this for my kids. I have 5 kids that i could not do any activities with everything i did made me so tired and just wanted to sit around now i get on the floor and have fun with them. Looking forward to amusment parks this yr i final be able to fit on the rides with the kids and have extra room in the seat

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I, too, am doing this for my kids and my future. I am so tired all the time. My joints hurts, etc. I have three boys that love to be outside and play. I want to be a fun mom, and be around when they have kids....I don't want them to suffer because of my weight...my surgery date is April 14th, I am scared but I know it will be worth it!

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I have two very active children. My daughter is a competition dancer and I want to be able to go over her dances with her at home. I also have a son who plays baseball and I want to play with him. I am totally doing this for my kids.

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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