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My surgery is tomorrow. I know that people mean well and want to give you good vibes for surgery, but can't they choose something else to say other than, "good luck" or "I'm keeping my fingers crossed?" I'm nervous enough and those phrases sound so unsure, like "I hope nothing happens." Hey, maybe it's me, but it's so annoying. Just saying.

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My surgery is tomorrow. I know that people mean well and want to give you good vibes for surgery, but can't they choose something else to say other than, "good luck" or "I'm keeping my fingers crossed?" I'm nervous enough and those phrases sound so unsure, like "I hope nothing happens." Hey, maybe it's me, but it's so annoying. Just saying.

I totally understand. I didn't have that as much with this surgery. But the day before my c-section my chiropractor (who is also a nurse practitioner) tells me about the one time he observed a c-section how the anesthesiologist couldn't get the spinal and had to do it four times. Uh...gee. Thanks for the calming words. Lol. When it came time for mine I was a mess thinking "please let this guy get it on the first time!"

I don't know what goes through people's heads.

Edited by Jencovi

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People are just trying to be nice. :) Instead of concentrating on the words that YOU might have chosen, think about the intent in which the message was sent.

I hear you (I promise I do as most people p!ss me off on a daily basis with their ignorance) but I do think your (totally natural) stress and anxiety is working you up about nothing. :D

Edited by LipstickLady

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Lipstick, you're totally right! I hibernated like a bear during my pre-op diet so I wouldn't have to deal with people! lol

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That's people being supportive the best way they know how. Take with the intention behind it, rather than the words they used. It's surprising difficult to convey something so simple to another person. So wonderful you have people rooting for you :)

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Have a good time? :D

I don't know, free morphine kind of appeals to me. Lortab twangs my buds, too. Durned 60's coming back up like sour milk. :angry::D

Edit:

Not free, more like lower risk of merchant induced injury and governmental incarceration. :huh::D

Edited by gmanbat

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Lol... "free morphine".... I recently saw my hospital/surgeon bill and that morphine was hardly free... :)

Have a good time? :D

I don't know, free morphine kind of appeals to me. Lortab twangs my buds, too. Durned 60's coming back up like sour milk. :angry::D

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Wishing u a speedy recovery., lipstick lady is right. People with compassion who is rooting for you.

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You're going to do GREAT and everything is going to be just fine! Keep us updated on how you're doing. I'm cheering for you!

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All is well. Was in quite a bit of pain in recovery, but now everything has settled, got pain meds. dispenser, feeling much better. Smooth sailing so far. Going to be walking the halls soon (before bedtime).

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All is well. Was in quite a bit of pain in recovery, but now everything has settled, got pain meds. dispenser, feeling much better. Smooth sailing so far. Going to be walking the halls soon (before bedtime).

So glad to hear that you are doing well! Glad they got your pain under control. Can't wait to join you as an official "sleever" next week. :)

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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