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Ok I'm only 1 week post OP and I'm going out with the couples from my church tomorrow night! I feel good, I want to go But, they don't know about my surgery at all and dinner well be served. #1 How will I explain why I'm sipping a shake instead of eating the dinner? #2 Should I bring something special for myself like my fav full liquid recipe so I won't feel too bad? Honest advice wanted....

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That is a difficult spot to be in. If you feel you cannot tell them your situation I would bring a Soup to share with the rest of them then only eat that. The chances of them not knowing something is up will be less than if you bring your own single serve Protein Drink. You could also not eat anything and tell them you are ill, but that depends on how you feel about lying to them.

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Well, I suppose if I were in your position, I would take what I am allowed to have, and politely decline everything except maybe Water. For sure, someone is going to ask what is up, and you could just tell them it's doctor's orders and you prefer not to discuss it, but you did not want to miss the event and the fellowship. No doubt, someone is going to say they will pray for you - and that's o k , just tell them you appreciate it.....then change the subject.

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I think it's fine saying you're on a special diet from your doctor, but you didn't want that to stand in the way of seeing everyone. Then change the subject. I hope you have a wonderful time!

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Can you eat soft foods like potatoes? If so one thing I know move your food around your plate a lot to make it look like your eating it or... say oh man I forgot about this dinner and ate toooooooooo much earlier or I couldn;t wait to eat so I already ate and will try to eat a little now but tomorrow all this food is mine and I am going to tear it up

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WOW! Absolutely great ideas!!!!! I think I got it....... thanks to ask of you..... I'm feeling good about this!!!!!!

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