Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Recommended Posts

I have been a store manager for 5 plus years with Rue21. As a result of my surgery I was forced to quit December 9th. 4 days after surgery. The demanded I go to work. I could not even stand up. I was senta text from a manager on vacation and was told under the circumstances of her being on vacation and no one else to cover I have no choice I have to go in. I was not released from my doctor. I filed for unemployment. And Rue21 denied it. I have my apoeal next Friday. They put that I quit fir personal reasons. I have all the documents including the texts. Any advice from you would greatly be appreciated. I am 51 not many companies are hiring people my age.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I have no idea but I would have called human resources before I would have quit. Did you request the time off before hand?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I was 4 days out of surgery. In pain and totally out of it. Emotionally stressed. I would have been a liability if I would have gone in. I tried to get someone to go to in for me. No answer. And the manager that texted also said in a text that she did not know whether I was dick or not but I needed to be there because she was on vacation and we were preparing for holiday delivery and she did not want things to get backed up. The thought she doubted I was sick made me mad since this was the person I awarded my job to and I stepped down to assistant manager just 2 weeks prior. I was under no condition to even think straight. As for as hr. I did not call them it was last minute when my surgery was scheduled. I we n t to dr on Monday they scheduled me for thursday. I had pre op on Tuesday and was off on Wednesday. I guess now I know that company doesn't worry about their people. Its the almighty dollar.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Did you advise your employer that you'd be off due to major surgery? If so, you will certainly win your unemployment claim. In fact, I'd look into hiring a lawyer and filing a discrimination suit.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

The manager on staff and our Distr ict Manager was aware of the surgery. The doctor said some patients can go back that I soon.I just wasnt one of them. I sure hope that I win this. I need the money. I b am now suffering with Vitamin B-1 defeniciency. I gorgey all the time. Want to sleep dizzy cant stand too long.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I was 4 days out of surgery. In pain and totally out of it. Emotionally stressed. I would have been a liability if I would have gone in. I tried to get someone to go to in for me. No answer. And the manager that texted also said in a text that she did not know whether I was d**k or not but I needed to be there because she was on vacation and we were preparing for holiday delivery and she did not want things to get backed up. The thought she doubted I was sick made me mad since this was the person I awarded my job to and I stepped down to assistant manager just 2 weeks prior. I was under no condition to even think straight. As for as hr. I did not call them it was last minute when my surgery was scheduled. I we n t to dr on Monday they scheduled me for thursday. I had pre op on Tuesday and was off on Wednesday. I guess now I know that company doesn't worry about their people. Its the almighty dollar.

You will win, get your paperwork from your doc office stating you were under doc care and make sure you have a copy of your leave of absent or anything that states how long you will be off work. Companies like this try stuff like this. Good luck.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I did not have a leave of absent. I was off for 5 days. So I do not know how I stand. But I have my doctors release and all the texts that were sent to me

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Are you in the US? I went out on FMLA (Family Medical Leave Act). It protects your job while out of work and allows you to collect temporary disability (even if you use accrued sick time, as I did - I was used that and received TDI while out of work). I only needed two weeks out of work but I wanted to be prepared if there were complications. I would highly recommend anyone use this option just in case.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I did FMLA too. I made sure all my paperwork was in and it was approved before I left. I too am a manager and I just took the maximum amount of time just in case I was off 6 weeks.

I wish you the best... I hope this works out for you. Best Wishes

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I did not have a leave of absent. I was off for 5 days. So I do not know how I stand. But I have my doctors release and all the texts that were sent to me

it sounds like you were to return in five days, that's why you received the text messages, if that's the case, according to HR Rules, as it relates to unemployment, your chances are 50/50, if the mediator considers your health at that time of return....speaking from HR side of things.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I did FMLA too. I made sure all my paperwork was in and it was approved before I left. I too am a manager and I just took the maximum amount of time just in case I was off 6 weeks. I wish you the best... I hope this works out for you. Best Wishes

yes, if you had FMLA, then you have a case.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I have been a store manager for 5 plus years with Rue21. As a result of my surgery I was forced to quit December 9th. 4 days after surgery. The demanded I go to work. I could not even stand up. I was senta text from a manager on vacation and was told under the circumstances of her being on vacation and no one else to cover I have no choice I have to go in. I was not released from my doctor. I filed for unemployment. And Rue21 denied it. I have my apoeal next Friday. They put that I quit fir personal reasons. I have all the documents including the texts. Any advice from you would greatly be appreciated. I am 51 not many companies are hiring people my age.

Congrats on your surgery and sorry you are going through all of this. This is one of the reasons I am happy I work from home. As long as you have a paper trail there should be no reason they deny you what is rightfully yours. And if you were forced to quit just make sure you have proof to appeal....I wish you all the best. They have many jobs you can do from home....right now I'm sitting in my room working....as long as you have a computer and a phone you can find something from home....ever need help I can point u in the right direction of at home from there u do ur research and become your own boss.....(nothing like these scam at home jobs)

Don't let this stress interrupt your new life change, these are small bumps in the road

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

yes I am interested I in what you are doing. Working from home. Therr are a nunch of scams out there.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

yes I am interested I in what you are doing. Working from home. Therr are a nunch of scams out there.

I sent u a personal message

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Well I had my appeal this morning. I think it went well. No one from Rue 21 was on the call. I let them kbow that I was discriminated ubder the ADA LAWS. Hope everthing goes in my favor.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Doughgurl

      2 days until I fly out to San Diego to have my Bypass Surg. in Tiajuana Mexico. Not gonna lie, the nerves are starting to surface. I don't fear the surgery itself, or the fact that I'm traveling alone, but its the aftermath that I'm stressing about the most, after this 8 week wait. I'm excited to finally be here, but I am really dreading the post surgical chapter. I know its going to be tough, real tough and I think I'm just in my head to much now that the day i here. Wish me luck, Hopefully I'm one of the lucky ones, and everything goes smoothly. Cant wait to give an exciting update,. If there is anyone else have a June bypass or even a recent one, Id love to have someone to compare war stories with. Also, anyone near San Antonio Tx? See ya soon with the future me. 💜
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • LeighaTR

      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
      · 2 replies
      1. Selina333

        I'm so happy for you! You are about to change your life. I was so glad to get the sleeve done in Dec. I didn't have feelings of regret overall. And I'm down almost 60 lbs. I do feel a little sad at restaurants. I can barely eat half a kid's meal. I get adults meals often because kid ones don't have the same offerings at times. Then I feel obligated to eat on that until it's gone and that can be days. So the restaurant thing isn't great for me. All the rest is fine by me! I love feeling full with very little. I do wish I could drink when eating. And will sip at the end. Just a strong habit to stop. But I'm working on it! You will do fine! Just keep focused on your desire to be different. Not better or worse. But different. I am happy both ways but my low back doesn't like me that heavy. So I listened (also my feet!). LOL! Update us on your journey! I'm not far from you. I'm in Houston. Good luck and I hope it all goes smoothly! Would love to see pics of the town you go to for this. I've never been there. Neat you will be traveling for this! Enjoy the journey. Take it one day at a time. Sometimes a few hours at a time. Follow all recommendations as best you can. 💗

      2. Doughgurl

        Thank you so much for your well wishes. I am hoping that everything goes easy for me as well. We don't eat out much as it is, so it wont be too bad in that department. Thankfully. Also, I hear you regarding your back and feet!! I'd like to add knees to the list. Killing me as we speak! I'm only 5' so the weight has to go. Too short to carry all this weight. Menopause really did a doosey on me. (😶lol) My daughter also lives in Houston. with her Husband and my 5 grand-littles. I grew up in Beaumont, so I know Houston well, I will be sure to keep in touch and update you on my journey. I may need some advice in the future, or just motivation. Thank You so much for reaching out, I was hoping to connect with someone in the community. I really appreciate it. 💜

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×