I feel like for most, being post op and thinner makes libido soar, but for me I feel like it's waning. I used to be ready to go all the time! Now I feel like I don't have the same drive as before. I am not as self conscience so I don't think it's that. I have lost 40 lbs since dec 2 and am happy about that. Has anyone else experienced this? Does sex drive come back? I thought for sure I'd have even higher libido than before.

I will say that being tired due to long work hours and such minimal calories doesn't help things. Help!

Most likely your Vitamin levels are starting to drop. Low magnesium, zinc and potassium will affect how you feel. Thats why the 3 month labs check all the vitamin levels to see if you are taking enough supplements.

Mine dropped off. My program doesn't check blood levels until 6 months.

I also have a 4 year old and a 7 year old. So hubby and I are super busy all the time.

mine dropped off around three months...but my vitamin levels were low.....now its like I can't get enough even my stamina has increased...you just have to give your body time....believe me you'll make up for it

My labs have been fine so far. Still very little sex drive. I'm 10 moths out, down 88lbs and now feel self conscious about how my body looks because of flabby skin. That's part of it, but just no drive otherwise. Feeling sad. Anyone with encouragement and suggestions?

Im 2 1/2 years out and in the beginning I had a high one, but now I have a very low one. I take all the vitamins I'm supposed to, exercise, use a compounded testorone cream bc my testorone was low, and my drive is still low. Its crazy. I have a new job and its very stressful, that's the only thing I can think of is the high stress causing the lack of interest. When we are child free and are able to go on dates its better, but that doesn't happen very often. Have you had your hormones checked?

Don't stress, the body does a lot of freaky things when its faced with drastic changes. Talk to your GYN next time your in. There have been some great breakthroughs and she might be able to guide you to something medical (pills/injections) or even holistic (acupuncture, herbs, meditation). Being a bit body conscious will play a big factor. Remember we weren't plus size overnight so we had time to adjust to our bodies. Now losing the weight did practically happen over night and we are not given the same amount of time to adjust. Remember, lbs up or down, extra skin, whatever, your still beautiful. Don't let it get you down! plus it never hurts to spice things up a bit. you'd be surprised how a couple toys, massage oil, new lingerie, soft sheets, or some good old fashion porn can help rev the engines my BF and I will be visiting the Exxxotica Convention this year. sizzle sizzle!!!

Thank you Lisa! I needed to hear that

I am almost a year out down 100 pounds and my sex drive is gone !!!

I have no clue what to do

First step for anyone would be to visit their doctor, have their hormone levels checked plus other blood work.

Read some romance, heavy on the sex novels. Look up some sensual gifs. If you do that, is it triggering anything? Best of luck!

Sex drive low? I discovered the answer. I am. 65 year-old female. The answer: saw palmetto! I started taking it for skin snd hair but oh boy did I discover another plus!!!!!!! I took it for 3 months & then i had “the warmies” all the time!!! I take the herb, not the extract. Figured it’s safer. Try it!!!

Mine never dropped any. And I'm OLD! ?

I haven't had a sex drive in about 6-7 years. I'm only 3 weeks out from surgery but I have lost 65 lbs since preparing for surgery. People said it would get better with losing weight, but it hasn't improved at all.

I asked my gyn about it a few years ago and she said it was my age (I was about 38-39 at the time). I was sort of shocked, since I know older women can still enjoy sex.

Sex is also painful for me. I'd eventually like to date again (haven't dated since 2015), but I feel like this is a big barrier.

I had my son at 39. Up until then I had a great sex drive, except once when I had severe depression. I got the baby blues after he was born and lost my sex drive again and it has never come back. I can get aroused in the moment, but I never think about it or really have a desire for it before hand. I am also 50 now so I'm sure I must be starting menopause. I have lost 179 so far and I had hoped that would help my sex drive, but it didn't.

On 10/16/2014 at 2:34 AM, Lisa Mccarroll said:

plus it never hurts to spice things up a bit. you'd be surprised how a couple toys, massage oil, new lingerie, soft sheets, or some good old fashion porn can help rev the engines my BF and I will be visiting the Exxxotica Convention this year. sizzle sizzle!!!

This this this! Engaging the mind is the best way to kick-start your desire, even on a day by day basis. If you have a kink or two, explore some porn, or discover a new one. There are some fantastic sexual health toys on the market now for all genders, so doing a spot of shopping together is a fun way to build some excitement. If you're concerned about loose skin, buy a tight outfit that holds everything in but promises sexy times!

And if you don't have a plug-in electric vibrator, get one.