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Nurse_B    270

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After my surgery, I am realizing just how much everything I do/did revolves around food. Get together with friends...potluck. Have people over...cook dinner, make Snacks. We can't have anything at work without creating a menu. Now that I am really watching my food choices and making an actual honest effort in keeping myself in line, I can't escape food! I know the world does not revolve around me (contrary to what my little sister sometimes alleges...), but geeze, I can't escape it. New Years Day a friend is inviting people over to watch our favorite college football team and then is cooking a bunch of food...which hey to each their own, but I can't eat any of it. So I told her I would bring things I can eat, and pass around the good stuff for everyone. Her response to me was short of rude, "who wants to eat that stuff, it's a football game!!". Well excuse me, I don't want to waste this opportunity, let alone all of the money I just forked over to get my life back. Everyone can make their own decisions about the way to live their life, I just wish there was a bit more support with what I am trying to do. I don't think it's too much to ask!! Rant over, just had to get it out there!

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I totally agree there is no way to escape food at gatherings of any kind. I found that if I'm going to a gathering and I know there is food I will just make something up for me to share with everyone else that works for me (like you were saying). If you don't like it don't eat it. I got to say though I have been lucky to have friends and family that will always ask if there is something that they could make that I could eat also. You'd be suprised how many people are going to opt for the less filling, less greasy foods. Especially those who make a New Years Resolution

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After my surgery, I am realizing just how much everything I do/did revolves around food. Get together with friends...potluck. Have people over...cook dinner, make Snacks. We can't have anything at work without creating a menu. Now that I am really watching my food choices and making an actual honest effort in keeping myself in line, I can't escape food! I know the world does not revolve around me (contrary to what my little sister sometimes alleges...), but geeze, I can't escape it. New Years Day a friend is inviting people over to watch our favorite college football team and then is cooking a bunch of food...which hey to each their own, but I can't eat any of it. So I told her I would bring things I can eat, and pass around the good stuff for everyone. Her response to me was short of rude, "who wants to eat that stuff, it's a football game!!". Well excuse me, I don't want to waste this opportunity, let alone all of the money I just forked over to get my life back. Everyone can make their own decisions about the way to live their life, I just wish there was a bit more support with what I am trying to do. I don't think it's too much to ask!! Rant over, just had to get it out there!

A real friend should question what they can serve at the party to accommodate you....geeze people....

Your health and well being is greater than football...just sayin....: -)

Shelby

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

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        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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