Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Recommended Posts

Just to read on here that someone who has faced obesity would look at another person in a judgmental way makes my heart sink. Did you not suffer enough at the remarks and looks and lack of compassion when you were one of those people who you judge?...I feel like Laura....You can tell when people are suffering but it is not my business to point it out or to make a suggestion as to what they should do because I think it is right.....

I am a completely different person then what I was before the surgery, I think it is because I almost died and very few that I called my friends were there for me or my family..I have no time for those ones anymore... I don't spend my time with people who don't care or didn't care...

I will never look at myself as better then anyone else because I know that what goes around comes around and just when you think you are better then someone else the scales shift...It always happens....I would love a world where we excepted each other no matter who we are, how we look, what color we are or how poor we are...I know that will never happen...but I can dream can't I..

I never want anyone to feel the pain I felt when I was being persecuted because of my size....I will never allow myself to lax into a self confidence that gives me the entitlement of judging anyone...

That is how I feel about it !

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

17 months out. Lost 180 lb by month 7. I feel great and have spent the last 9 months or so getting athlete fit. Love it! It has changed my whole approach to exercise and I hope others have the joy of getting more active. I do notice obese people. My wife and I often think we should talk to these people about sleeve, but have not actually followed through. I have the same friends, but have made a lot of new ones through my cross fit box. It brings me joy to socialize with others who are athletic where I would not have had the courage to do this before. So I had a situation on the airplane a couple weeks ago where I was in middle and 450 lb was on one side of me. He made it seriously uncomfortable from being squished the whole flight. However, I did not say anything for 2 reasons. 1. I did not want to embarrass him and 2, I remember where I had come from. While I was never as large as this person, I was quite large on the plane. And probably squished my fair share of people. Just my two cents.

Edited by Fiddleman

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

10 months out 93lbs down. I get mixed things said about me especially at work. Some skinny folks have said that I lost too much work. But others have been first to notice.

I don't look down on over weight people. I have compassion! I know without the Sleeve I would be heavier by now. And lots of aches and pain. More and more I'm more appreciative of this surgery. I have a ways to before I hit goal but I'm on my way.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • LeighaTR

      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

    • CaseyP1011

      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×