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[BG Matt 0]

I am exactly one month away from my surgery date. I know having cold feet is normal, but I still have a number of nagging issues. First the basics, I'm 43 years old, 6' 1" and 288 pounds (37.5 BMI) and sleep apnea. Typical issues with weight loss. Here are the issues I'm wrestling with:

1) Image. I have always been a bigger person. Kind of become am image that defines. Here's the odd thing. For years I could barely look at myself in the mirror without thinking that I was way overweight and needed a major intervention. But since deciding on the surgery I cannot help looking in the mirror and thinking, "you're not that back!"

2) Vanity. Why do I think I am being vain to get the Sleeve with a BMI so high. I know that if my BMI was 40 I would not think that... and I am just a few points below that.

3) Complications. I am over the fears of mortality re the surgery-- no more than other surgeries I have had. But the rates of complications seem a bit high. I read many stories about smooth transitions after surgery, but the few that had complications such as leaking that led to another surgery concerns me.

My issue has always been over eating and being a foodie. I think I am comfortable with knowing that I can still be a foodie but in a very different way, especially quantity. But, this issues I have described as playing mind games with me.

Any thoughts would be appreciated.

[Dinky1555 3]

Just be confident that this could be what will help you. I had my sleeve last march, I have lost about 68 lbs. I have been a slow looser, but that's ok too, I didn't have any problems with the surgery at all, no complications, no vomiting nothing. I can eat most foods. I did have a little bit of a hard time getting salmon down when I could finally eat it. But now can eat it. I would do it again if I had too. I just keep telling myself I do not need to go crazy bc I have and am loosing the weight, meaning getting the big head. I am still same person, only smaller. I trust in. God and he is my encourager.

[tsan4u 12]

Just be confident that this could be what will help you. I had my sleeve last march, I have lost about 68 lbs. I have been a slow looser, but that's ok too, I didn't have any problems with the surgery at all, no complications, no vomiting nothing. I can eat most foods. I did have a little bit of a hard time getting salmon down when I could finally eat it. But now can eat it. I would do it again if I had too. I just keep telling myself I do not need to go crazy bc I have and am loosing the weight, meaning getting the big head. I am still same person, only smaller. I trust in. God and he is my encourager.

Dinky thank you. I have had a similar experience. Losing slow due to taking 5 mgs of prednisone daily. As long as I dont gain. I exercise as much as I can AND I am encouraged.

[tsan4u 12]

Dinky thank you. I have had a similar experience. Losing slow due to taking 5 mgs of prednisone daily. As long as I dont gain. I exercise as much as I can AND I am encouraged.

I was sleeved on Sept. 23rd and have lost only 24 lbs but I am wearing clothes I have not worn in two years. All my shoes are too big.