The Negative People Keep Coming Out Of The Woodworks

[lovebug_0766 38]

I'm tired of all the people who know someone who had a problem. Funny thing every one I have spoken to love it. People need ti support

[The Icy One 518]

I'm tired of all the people who know someone who had a problem. Funny thing every one I have spoken to love it. People need ti support

Yep. I am being careful about whom on my husband's side of the family I tell. They love to drag out the "So and so knows so and so and they had a *insert WLS here* and such and such happened and now their life is RUINED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" Stories and I don't need that crap, thank you very much.

[lovebug_0766 38]

Its crazy!people don't know how much it makes me crazy

[DELETE THIS ACCOUNT! 12,703]

Just remember, statistics show that only 5% of complications arise by no fault of the patient. The rest are caused because of something the patient did (or didn't) do to cause it.

Also remember that anecdotal evidence like "oh my aunt's friend did this" or "my brother's sister in law said that" holds zero merit. Everyone seems to know somebody that had a WLS and some weird horror story to go along with it. Ignore it- it's not worth your time or energy.

Just keep following your own path and don't worry about the naysayers

[MzEboni912 177]

Just remember, statistics show that only 5% of complications arise by no fault of the patient. The rest are caused because of something the patient did (or didn't) do to cause it.

Also remember that anecdotal evidence like "oh my aunt's friend did this" or "my brother's sister in law said that" holds zero merit. Everyone seems to know somebody that had a WLS and some weird horror story to go along with it. Ignore it- it's not worth your time or energy.

Just keep following your own path and don't worry about the naysayers

That is possibly why I have not told too many people. I have a task at hand and I am going for it.

[hiddnstar 167]

Yep. I am being careful about whom on my husband's side of the family I tell. They love to drag out the "So and so knows so and so and they had a *insert WLS here* and such and such happened and now their life is RUINED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" Stories and I don't need that crap, thank you very much.

That happened to me, too, and it haunted me. Ive found that whatever surgery someone is going to have ( be WLS or gall bladder or tonslis, etc), there will always be someone who brings up some hellish story to tell about what happened to a friend of theirs in the very same situation as YOU!

Maybe they are at a loss as to how to be supportive and that's what they come up with.

I'd rather people just say something like, "Good for you! Go for it!" or to simply be curious about the procedure and what it's like.

~hiddn

[The Icy One 518]

Just remember, statistics show that only 5% of complications arise by no fault of the patient. The rest are caused because of something the patient did (or didn't) do to cause it.

Also remember that anecdotal evidence like "oh my aunt's friend did this" or "my brother's sister in law said that" holds zero merit. Everyone seems to know somebody that had a WLS and some weird horror story to go along with it. Ignore it- it's not worth your time or energy.

Just keep following your own path and don't worry about the naysayers

Yep. That is why I am pretty much keeping my own council, for now. I will probably share sometime in the future but for now... Naw.

[B-52 7,113]

People love a train wreck....or ever notice traffic backed up for miles because of an accident on the other side of the center median in the other lanes?

News room saying...If it bleeds, it leads....

NO ONE knows I have had WLS except for immediate family....I just did not want to explain myself to everyone...it is something I needed to do, for myself, my health, and ultimately my Family.....

So I received nothing but compliments during my journey, and no criticisms....and today, 3 years later, being fat is but a old memory to everyone, no one talks about it anymore, and all have accepted the fact, and take it for granted that I am what I am....a fit person without an oz of fat on me (as someone said yesterday)

New people I meet never knew I was once over 100 lbs heavier, and the subject of me loosing weight is now old news, no longer something to talk about in the office............the ultimate NSV....

Ironically, the one family member who was my biggest critic with nothing but stories of failures......is one of the fattest people I know. And she keeps getting fatter!!!...she should not be the one throwing stones...but even she has now stopped talking about it seeing the entire process was 100% successful with zero complications.....

[lovebug_0766 38]

I appreciate the support, my banding day is less than a week away!

[The Icy One 518]

Congrats, Lovebug! I go on the 21st. Can't wait! For one thing, this pre op diet is driving me up a tree. LOL I think I need to have my surgery so I can drink broth and have something different.

[lovebug_0766 38]

I hate these Protein Shakes

[yaya1397 79]

Ain't nobody got time for that!! I have chosen not to tell to many people for the same reason. Don't want to know, don't want it hear it. Many times people, yes with good intentions try to tell you why you should not have the surgery and yes they always know someone that is not happy with their lap band. But do they know all the facts of why they are not sucessful? Nope

Therefore, I pay no mind!!!

My surgery is this coming Monday, I can't Wait!!!

[The Icy One 518]

I hate these Protein shakes

I don't hate them, I just grow a little weary of the sweet. I am craving some savory. I was perusing the powders?utm_source=BariatricPal&utm_medium=Affiliate&utm_campaign=CommentLink" target="_ad" data-id="1" >unjury site, looking at the chicken flavor, reading reviews and so on. I think I am going to order a few packets and try it. Get a little variety in my menu.

[The Icy One 518]

Ain't nobody got time for that!! I have chosen not to tell to many people for the same reason. Don't want to know, don't want it hear it. Many times people, yes with good intentions try to tell you why you should not have the surgery and yes they always know someone that is not happy with their lap band. But do they know all the facts of why they are not sucessful? Nope

Therefore, I pay no mind!!!

My surgery is this coming Monday, I can't Wait!!!

Some have good intentions and some want to knock your arse right off the rails. It isn't easy for some people to accept a friend or family member's dramatic weight loss. As huge as it is for us, it's pretty freaking huge for those around us, as well and not everyone deals with it so well.

Good luck on Monday! I'll keep you in my thoughts,

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,722]

everyone has an opinion....some good ones and some bad...some just dont know how the (bad) things affect people...you read/hear see something that is (bad) and you go oh **** and worry for nothing...why i always say, any questions/pain, ask the dr....not what someone pulls from web as truth.

and some just say stuff because they have no clue or are scared for you (family/friends) or are just stupid....tell who you want....tell no one....but understand its not you..just do your best with whatever surgery you get...you will be fine...hang with us positive people......it drives the neg nellies ape ****.