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Let me preface this by saying I have had great success so far and am quite happy with my progress. In no way do I feel like a slow loser. But... I also keep wondering if I will really ever lose all this weight? My stomach (mainly the lower part) is barely going down in size, which makes me wonder if maybe I will have this big lower stomach forever and maybe never get smaller than an 18 or 16 in jeans? I wear an xl-xxl shirt depending on the maker, but can't help but think this is it, though I need to lose about 60 more pounds.

So, to those who have been there- are these thoughts normal? Did anyone wonder if they would never get there, but did? Does anyone else feel like this?

Surgery- 5/1/13 5'10 HW: 339 DOS:320 CW 237 (as of 10/1) GW 180

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Please don't worry. You aren't even six months out from surgery. You will lose more weight. Everyone loses at a different pace and stalls are common. Just keep following your doctor and nut instructions and you will be just fine.

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Thank you! I know common sense dictates I will be successful since I have been so far, but it can be so hard to live in the moment!

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Sorry I re-read your most and what you said. It can be scary to think we went through this surgery and that we won't achieve our goal weight. You may or may not to be honest but if your health has improved it is not just about the number on the scale or the size on the label. Keep your head and stay positive. You will do great.

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Let me preface this by saying I have had great success so far and am quite happy with my progress. In no way do I feel like a slow loser. But... I also keep wondering if I will really ever lose all this weight? My stomach (mainly the lower part) is barely going down in size' date=' which makes me wonder if maybe I will have this big lower stomach forever and maybe never get smaller than an 18 or 16 in jeans? I wear an xl-xxl shirt depending on the maker, but can't help but think this is it, though I need to lose about 60 more pounds.

So, to those who have been there- are these thoughts normal? Did anyone wonder if they would never get there, but did? Does anyone else feel like this?

Surgery- 5/1/13 5'10 HW: 339 DOS:320 CW 237 (as of 10/1) GW 180[/quote']

I sometimes feel the same if I focus on my Weight...then I remember to just follow the plan. I had my surgery on 4/29, and I remember that I still have a long time to lose..it's slowing down, but if I kept losing at the rate I was, I'd be emaciated very quickly. It seems like I stay in the same size FOREVER...and then I'll get my perspective...it's like a month, then I have to buy down a size. It's definitely a marathon for this girl.

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I sometimes feel the same if I focus on my Weight...then I remember to just follow the plan. I had my surgery on 4/29, and I remember that I still have a long time to lose..it's slowing down, but if I kept losing at the rate I was, I'd be emaciated very quickly. It seems like I stay in the same size FOREVER...and then I'll get my perspective...it's like a month, then I have to buy down a size. It's definitely a marathon for this girl.

Ha! Good point- I have lost ~83 lbs in 5 months, so yeah, if I kept that up I wouldn't be looking so hot! I also feel like I have been the same size forever, but thinking about it, I was a solid 22 a month ago, and now am an 18. The tops are slowing down, but initially I lost very quickly in that department. I guess I just needed to hear from others that have been there/done that (or are doing it) that this is normal, and that I probably will get there. If not, it certainly is not from lack of effort. I also think that there is a huge difference between a lane bryant xl and an xl from normal stores, which makes me feel worse, but shouldn't, I know.

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Yes, I harbor these thoughts. Completely normal. My biggest hope is to get down to 120# and stay at this weight for good. I am at the mercy of my body no matter how much I follow or un-follow the plan. I can want my 120# all day long if my body says otherwise. We shall see.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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