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I'm still new too this. I was sleeved Oct 15 13. I think I'm doing good because everyone says I'm so much smaller but idk.

My wife thinks I'm not eating enough different foods / enough food.< /p>

I pretty much eat the same thing everyday. Idk I like the Protein I'm getting from it and ot goes down ez but I want tje best possible resault. She thinks I'm gong to exteme and I don't wanna scew up

Post op 209 kilo

Sw 199 kilo

Cw not sure (scales I see in stores only go up too 300 and sadly I'm 400+) waiting till nov 15 for my post op one month

So I eat this

Breakfast 1 shake (120 cal 25g protien)

lunch / dinner / snack 1 cup of cottage cheese + one can of light tuna with some hot sauce. (345 cal 58g protein) It makes 1 and half cups I eat it half a cup at a time over three times.

Snake 1 shake (120 cal 25 protein)

As much Water as I can get atleat 4-5 bottles

I'm doing light exercise about two hrs a day.

Total cal 585 total protein 108

My wide thinks I'm trying to hard too get protein and just not trying any other foods. I'm worried she might be righr but idk. I just want to be healthu.

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i dont have much advice as i am still pre op but if you are looking to try some different foods, try getting some recipes from theworldaccordingtoeggface.com. i know she has some great recipes. I have heard that her ricotta bake is awesome and i cant wait to try it once i get to the soft phase! good luck

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The first thing I would do is call your Nut, double check with them and see if your getting enough cal/protein in. It all looks good to me, but that will settle the non-argument and put her mind to ease.

Keep up the good work!

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You are eating way more than I was at that stage - I think I was still on shakes and Soups. Less than 500 cals a day... and doing what I could to get 50 grams of Protein. Im now 3 months out and getting 800 cals a day - I do try to add a couple of ounces of vegies to my dinner - and 75 g of protein. Your doc or NUT will be the best person to tell you what to do though.

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Im pre op but everything I'm reading and just looked at my post op meal planner...thats alot...for only being 3 weeks out...Good luck....80 gs of Protein is plenty for the day...my NUT said over that is "useless"...just make sure you have the 80 grams & plenty of water..

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Well you are a man.. So your stomach size might be bigger than a woman's, which would explain the Ability to eat a 1/2 a cup of food at a time... Your wife is not your nutritionist. I would call them because they would know better than her or us. But yes you want to do Protein first and foremost.

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The big question isn't about what anybody else thinks you're doing. How do you feel?

Are you losing consistently or did you lose a lot immediately and have tapered? You're freshly sleeved, so you should expect a stall or slowdown around 3 weeks to one month out.

Do you feel deprived? Do you feel the desire to eat more? Do you feel any ill effects from your current diet?

It took me MONTHS to get in just the Protein and the Water daily. From there, it was a slow incline to add in good quality fruits, vegetables and grains.

It takes time to reach that "normal" diet. And while you have a tiny capacity, Protein is the most important thing (outside of staying hydrated) because you do not want your body to scavenge your muscle instead of your fat. Protein will aid healing, too.

If you suffer from low energy, I suggest more carbohydrates. But an easy way to do that? Switch your shake to one with more carbs, or mix it with milk if you aren't already. That will give you more carbohydrates without forcing you eat more food.

Because quite honestly, you don't want to eat a greater variety of foods only to find that you're "wasting" your space on two bites of broccoli instead of an ounce of dense protein! There's time for variety and balance after you've healed. Expect to expand your diet somewhere around three months out, unless you have more room sooner.

If your wife isn't a WLS patient, it's more likely she's just caught up in the drastic change in your diet. Doing what you're currently doing for the long haul would not be appropriate. But temporarily? This is what most of us do early out!

Good luck, and congrats on your sleeve and your success so far.

~Cheri

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Since your wife cares so much perhaps she would benefit from learning about your special needs with the sleeve. Maybe get the Big Sleeve Book, as well as specific nutrition info from your doctor and nutritionist for her to read up on. Most nutritionists will give you some guidelines, such as how many grams of Protein, grams of carbohydrates, grams of fat, etc. to have with the sleeve. And of course, remember your rules: protein first, veg next, complex carbs third, and get in at least 64 oz of Water. Don't sacrifice protein for veg. We sleevers don't eat a "balanced" diet like normal people, we have special requirements. One day you'll get it all in, but not early on. Good luck!

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