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I'm a carboholic too...I think imma hafta follow your advice b/c the last two days I've been craving/eating carbs and I've been soo good about avoidin them up til now:( so thanks - even though I'm not the OP, you've helped me too.

I have found the more bad carbs you eat the more you want. My body just screams for them after I have eaten them so I just avoid. I eat only good carbs now and my body and mind feels liberated from them. It really is easier to just not eat them.......less torture! Good luck! :)

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Sugar addiction behaves similar to nicotine addiction. Do you smoke?

A couple of things happen. When you eat that "feel good drug" (sugar) in your brains releases the feel good chemical and then the chain starts. You want to keep feeling good so you keep doing what you know that makes you feel good. The thing is..... ITS A TRICK! It does NOT really make you feel good. It makes you feel bad and sick and like you failed. Then you want to feel good again so you eat more sugar! Just being able to wrap your head around what is really going on in our complex minds can help us to defend ourselves. Like I said.... first things first.... REMOVE YOURSELF OR THE BROWNIES FROM THE AREA. FILL UP ON Water. BRUSH YOUR TEETH. Allow yourself to admit that YES, you would like to have it, but NO you will not have it. You will not be a slave to a freaking brownie. Just reaching out on here like you did is a sign of wanting to not fail. Go for a walk. Whatever it takes. Don't use the fact that you already had cheesecake to justify having a brownie. Set a goal.... Stay within your calorie range and workout routine for a week and reward yourself with ONE small low fat or healthy made brownie at the end. Give yourself something to look forward too. Now, get off the ledge! :)

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Sugar addiction behaves similar to nicotine addiction. Do you smoke? A couple of things happen. When you eat that "feel good drug" (sugar) in your brains releases the feel good chemical and then the chain starts. You want to keep feeling good so you keep doing what you know that makes you feel good. The thing is..... ITS A TRICK! It does NOT really make you feel good. It makes you feel bad and sick and like you failed. Then you want to feel good again so you eat more sugar! Just being able to wrap your head around what is really going on in our complex minds can help us to defend ourselves. Like I said.... first things first.... REMOVE YOURSELF OR THE BROWNIES FROM THE AREA. FILL UP ON Water. BRUSH YOUR TEETH. Allow yourself to admit that YES' date=' you would like to have it, but NO you will not have it. You will not be a slave to a freaking brownie. Just reaching out on here like you did is a sign of wanting to not fail. Go for a walk. Whatever it takes. Don't use the fact that you already had cheesecake to justify having a brownie. Set a goal.... Stay within your calorie range and workout routine for a week and reward yourself with ONE small low fat or healthy made brownie at the end. Give yourself something to look forward too. Now, get off the ledge! <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':)' />[/quote']

Thank you so much! My addiction is sugar! I don't smoke and I rarely drank before surgery. (Four oz. of wine one time since surgery). I just have not yet beat that sugar addiction. So much pleasure. But you are right, I DO NOT want to fail. I am off the ledge now and I want to thank you all SO much for your help. I can't even express how grateful I am.

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Sugar addiction behaves similar to nicotine addiction. Do you smoke?

A couple of things happen. When you eat that "feel good drug" (sugar) in your brains releases the feel good chemical and then the chain starts. You want to keep feeling good so you keep doing what you know that makes you feel good. The thing is..... ITS A TRICK! It does NOT really make you feel good. It makes you feel bad and sick and like you failed. Then you want to feel good again so you eat more sugar! Just being able to wrap your head around what is really going on in our complex minds can help us to defend ourselves. Like I said.... first things first.... REMOVE YOURSELF OR THE BROWNIES FROM THE AREA. FILL UP ON Water. BRUSH YOUR TEETH. Allow yourself to admit that YES' date=' you would like to have it, but NO you will not have it. You will not be a slave to a freaking brownie. Just reaching out on here like you did is a sign of wanting to not fail. Go for a walk. Whatever it takes. Don't use the fact that you already had cheesecake to justify having a brownie. Set a goal.... Stay within your calorie range and workout routine for a week and reward yourself with ONE small low fat or healthy made brownie at the end. Give yourself something to look forward too. Now, get off the ledge! :)[/quote']

What an amazing support!!! Wise wise words. I hope you are still active on here when I go under In a few weeks. At the end of the day no one understands like the peers here. Its like a sleeve-hood lol

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2nd chance' date=' beach lover and alwayshungry, thank you so much! Yes I needed some tough love! I AM a sugar addict!! One little bit sends me over the edge. Alwayshungry, I would love to know some of the things you know I have lost 69 pounds in almost 5 months but I have not conquered this addiction. So disheartening.[/quote']

Thankfully that's why we went through the trouble of getting the sleeve. We are all addicts. You can get through this. Get an emergency kit to keep in the house for next time ;)

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YOU. PEOPLE. ROCK!!!!!

I don't need to be talked down from any ledge tonight, but my night's out there ahead of me somewhere...and I'll know JUST who to turn to!!

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Thankfully that's why we went through the trouble of getting the sleeve. We are all addicts. You can get through this. Get an emergency kit to keep in the house for next time ;)

GREAT idea!!!

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I flicked a booger in the cheesecake and in the brownies. You're welcome.

Gracias mamacita!!! You are the best!!!

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Husband has friends over for the World Series. Ate a piece of cheesecake tonight and now I want a brownie! I am freaking out! Almost 5 months out and I can eat anything! And I feel like I'm losing control!!

Girlfriend, one piece of cheesecake and a craving for a brownie does not a failure make. You don't have to have that diet mentality anymore -- you know, the "I've blown it now. May as well give up and eat anything I want." You can move on, get back to the eating program that makes you feel good and proud of yourself. Your life is changed now, you are changed now. You don't have to be the sugar addict you used to be anymore. You can be different. And, you will have a plan for the next time you or your husband have friends over.

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