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wannaBme    3

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Hi guys...I had my gastric bypass surgery 10 days ago, and I am having such a hard time! There isn't a day that's gone by that I don't regret this! Having the surgery was the worst decision I've ever made! I am mortified about what I've done to my body, how I feel physically, emotionally, everything. I feel so alone and so lost and so hopeless...this stupid surgery has taken everything from me! I've struggled with depression before, but now I feel like I have nothing to live for...

Btw, I'm going to call my doctor in the morning, but what can he do? It's not like he can reverse it...

Did any of you guys go through this? I feel so alone.... :-(

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Vince    0

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Hi guys...I had my gastric bypass surgery 10 days ago' date=' and I am having such a hard time! There isn't a day that's gone by that I don't regret this! Having the surgery was the worst decision I've ever made! I am mortified about what I've done to my body, how I feel physically, emotionally, everything. I feel so alone and so lost and so hopeless...this stupid surgery has taken everything from me! I've struggled with depression before, but now I feel like I have nothing to live for...

Btw, I'm going to call my doctor in the morning, but what can he do? It's not like he can reverse it...

Did any of you guys go through this? I feel so alone.... :-([/quote']

After reading the forums could help me make up my mind to do the surgery after reading so much success stories. Have you ever thought about looking for a support group in your neighborhood?

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Vince    0

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Hi guys...I had my gastric bypass surgery 10 days ago' date=' and I am having such a hard time! There isn't a day that's gone by that I don't regret this! Having the surgery was the worst decision I've ever made! I am mortified about what I've done to my body, how I feel physically, emotionally, everything. I feel so alone and so lost and so hopeless...this stupid surgery has taken everything from me! I've struggled with depression before, but now I feel like I have nothing to live for...

Btw, I'm going to call my doctor in the morning, but what can he do? It's not like he can reverse it...

Did any of you guys go through this? I feel so alone.... :-([/quote']

I will do my surgery on July 9th and I hope it works well. I'm very fortunate to have a loving wife of support me and friends in the community that have gone through the surgery themselves.

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shershrinking    53

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Doctor tells me depression is really common after surgery. Any surgery. Take any medication Dr can give you for depression, keep sharing, go to your local support meetings, get outside and walk. Hang in there! Just know this is a common problem, it will get better.

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TinyMamiOf3kids    1,280

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It's very normal to feel depress. We have a life style change. It's not easy to go from eating burgers & fries to one day sip on Water & eat Jello. It's a big change we go threw. It only gets better after this. It's only 10 days sweety. I'm over 1 year & I feel great & don't regret WLS at all but you can do this. Do call your doctor & seek help & join a support group in your area. Stay with us we are here to keep you positive.

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mimi_love2013    12

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Dont give up I went through the same thing cried everyday. It will get better call your doctor, or the nurse they are there to help. I will keep you in my prayers.

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kss31    103

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Yes! But now 8 months out I feel great. Hang in there, it does get better. The combination of nausea, pain, hunger, tiredness, and stress is enough to drive a person over the edge but it is going to get better. Somewhere around 6 months you will begin to feel a new normal. The first month is the worst I assure you.

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Lou:)    110

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I really regretted the surgery for about a month. I feel nearly normal now. It gets better. I also struggle with depression. It was a bit worse after surgery but I just kept taking my meds.

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YoColeFleet    246

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Hi guys...I had my gastric bypass surgery 10 days ago' date=' and I am having such a hard time! There isn't a day that's gone by that I don't regret this! Having the surgery was the worst decision I've ever made! I am mortified about what I've done to my body, how I feel physically, emotionally, everything. I feel so alone and so lost and so hopeless...this stupid surgery has taken everything from me! I've struggled with depression before, but now I feel like I have nothing to live for...

Btw, I'm going to call my doctor in the morning, but what can he do? It's not like he can reverse it...

Did any of you guys go through this? I feel so alone.... :-([/quote']

Awww, your comment broke my heart, hang in there, it will get better, although I will be approaching my 4 week post op come next week, I felt bad one day, I cried and cried, I didn't receive support from my husband and that added to my feeling of loneliness...I think we all get that down at one time or another. I now attend my WLS group at the hospital where I had my surgery, I get chance to hear everyone's success, worries, happiness, and sadness, both positive and negative and it helps me. I hope you feel better, and remember we are here to help in any way, call your doc, join a health club, and remember to breath in and out.

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Cici22    27

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I think it will really help if you join a support group, I am pre-op and I found one and its great, you can see different people struggling and in the same boat as you and me, and it motivates you to see that you are not the only one. Look at pictures of people in here and their accomplishments, I am trying to loose 15 pounds on my own before the surgery and believe me sometimes I feel like I am just wasting my time, or I think That Maybe I should just love my big body, but then I think about my medical problems, and not being able to get in ride at the fair with my kids and spending $30 on a cheap shirt lol, and I said to myself NO MORE! I want to wear normal shoes, regular cute clothes and live life to the max! So i force my self, and with time, within a year i will be better and next year maybe finally i can buy a bathing suit!!!!! =) Hang in there is only been a few days, you will see the difference soon enough. Email me if you need someone to talk!

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irishkat    14

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Hi guys...I had my gastric bypass surgery 10 days ago' date=' and I am having such a hard time! There isn't a day that's gone by that I don't regret this! Having the surgery was the worst decision I've ever made! I am mortified about what I've done to my body, how I feel physically, emotionally, everything. I feel so alone and so lost and so hopeless...this stupid surgery has taken everything from me! I've struggled with depression before, but now I feel like I have nothing to live for...

Btw, I'm going to call my doctor in the morning, but what can he do? It's not like he can reverse it...

Did any of you guys go through this? I feel so alone.... :-([/quote']

Don't feel bad. I'm 9 days post op & I've been feeling the same way. It's a very jarring thing to deal with. On top of it all I'm grieving the passing of my mom who didn't want me to have this surgery. It's an extremely shocking life style change. We can't go back now. We must make the most of this & try hard. Please feel free to contact me if you need an ear. I'm right there with you. :(

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zuzuspetals    78

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Get a therapist who works with eating and weight issues. You don't have food anymore, it's gone. So any feelings, pain, desires....it's all out there now! No more food comfort! Now you have to deal with all your emotional s#%t. I know it seems harsh but it's true.

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music1618    879

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So I have good news and bad news. Good news this is 100% normal and will go away. Bad news - it may take a little while for it to go away. I regretted the decision for about three months post op, and then I was fitting into smaller pants and the compliments started rolling in. I also started feeling myself again after about three months. Stay in close contact with your doctor as they are there to support you through this. Trust me they have heard it all and know how to help. I am a year post op and it is the best decision I have ever made. Just hang in there - this whole process is a roller coaster ride and you will learn so much about yourself. I learned I was stronger than I thought I was mentally and physically.

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kiwiladydee    402

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Yes, I have gone through this. You can send me a private message to talk more in detail. But I hated it everyday for at least the first 3 to 4 months. I was depressed, Angry, disappointed and just lost. I didn't know how I got to this place and where it was going to go. I couldn't eat or drink for months. I was re-hospitalized a few time and thought my life would never go back to what I knew as normal. I went through serious crying spells - and a lot of anger!!! Things start to turn around about 8 - 10 months.

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saramichelle    127

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I really regretted the surgery for about a month. I feel nearly normal now. It gets better. I also struggle with depression. It was a bit worse after surgery but I just kept taking my meds.

We both seem to have the depression issue! Now I really wish you were closer:)

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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