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I guess I will start off by saying that I had rny surgery in January of this year and the last couple months my husband has been talking about wanting to have a baby. We already have a 2 year old son. Since starting this wls journey in November 2012 I have lost a total of 81 pounds. Just this week I finally hit 199 pounds ( first time being under 200 in years). Part of me doesn't want to have another pregnancy because I'm afraid of the weight gain and that I won't lose the baby weight and I've worked so hard to get where I am now and want to continue until I get to my goal weight and part of me feels guilty for not wanting another child because I don't wanna gain any weight. Anyone else feel this way or am I just being selfish. I'm so afraid to go back to the way I was before this journey started.

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You are not alone. I have a 7 yr old who is asking for a sibling. ..I am 5 mos post op and have lost 66 lbs..I have 30 more to ho and I too fear gaining it back if I get pregnant :(

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I guess I will start off by saying that I had rny surgery in January of this year and the last couple months my husband has been talking about wanting to have a baby. We already have a 2 year old son. Since starting this wls journey in November 2012 I have lost a total of 81 pounds. Just this week I finally hit 199 pounds ( first time being under 200 in years). Part of me doesn't want to have another pregnancy because I'm afraid of the weight gain and that I won't lose the baby weight and I've worked so hard to get where I am now and want to continue until I get to my goal weight and part of me feels guilty for not wanting another child because I don't wanna gain any weight. Anyone else feel this way or am I just being selfish. I'm so afraid to go back to the way I was before this journey started.

Yep I feel ya..that added with idk how much longer I've got cause I'm getting to old almost. All those wasted years of infertility.

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You are not alone! We decided our baby would be an only child, and I've said on here no more kids, but my 3 year old is asking for a "sister" and it has me and hubby thinking..... But I feel so selfish......

This mama is SOOO confused :(

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Thank god I'm not alone on this one! My husband and I had both agreed we didn't want our son to be an only child but since the surgery all I can think about is all the pregnancy weight I would gain if I got pregnant again.i feel bad for my husband because he really wants a second child. My husband just keeps saying to get off my birth control ( depo) and if we get pregnant we get pregnant. Part of me freaks out about that because I've only been post op for a few months and second the weight gain... Urg

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They recommend waiting at least 18mos after surgery to get pregnant. Why not do that and then reevaluate your decision then? By then you should have lost the weight (or the majority) and you can have a much healthier pregnancy. My kids are 5 1/2 years apart and it's great.

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Ive lost 65 so far, after birth ill continue on my journey.. Thanks

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Congrats Mfee !!!!! Babies are a true blessing : )

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Congrats Mfee !!!!! Babies are a true blessing : )

Thank u :-) but i will say this will be my 3rd. My oldest is 14 years old nd youngest 16months.. I love all blessings

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I don't think that's selfish. I took precautions to prevent pregnancy and it still happened. Despite that, I'm ecstatic to be having another baby after years of infertility. There is a tiny part of me that is a bit upset because I should be concentrating on myself and losing weight, especially this early on post op is when you lose the most the quickest. It's a personal choice and all that matters is how you feel.

HW:358 DOS:338 CW:275 SD:1/28/13

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