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I see everyone posting about their sex life lol so ill post about my problem.......

Before surgery i use to wanna do it 3 times a day literally before work on lunch break and after dinner for the last three years now its different after surgery it has changed to like once a week three at the most I'm 22 my man is 41 so idk what's going on with me I haven't gave him oral sex in for ever now he thinking I don't want him anymore but its not true its just my interest in it is slowly going away we have a 2 year old even after having our child it was still the same but not now so can someone give me ideas on what can possibly help me

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I am 5 weeks out and was just researching this today. My sex drive has gone way down since I had surgery. It has nothing to do with him, but I am just really tired most of the time when I get home from work. I wish I had an answer for you, as I too and in the same boat.

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I am 5 weeks out and was just researching this today. My sex drive has gone way down since I had surgery. It has nothing to do with him' date=' but I am just really tired most of the time when I get home from work. I wish I had an answer for you, as I too and in the same boat.[/quote']

Lol its kinda weird

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It's your hormones. After my surgery my hormones were so out of whack. I didn't lose my sex drive but I was so mean and moody. It was so bad I didn't like myself. They will get back to normal. Some people take longer than others.

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It's your hormones. After my surgery my hormones were so out of whack. I didn't lose my sex drive but I was so mean and moody. It was so bad I didn't like myself. They will get back to normal. Some people take longer than others.

Yeah I thought about that you probably right

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Yeah I thought about that you probably right

There's another thread on this subject and this is very common.

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Sorry ladies the sex went down hill. I'm hubby is also older. It's the changes we are going threw that's making us nuts.

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Sorry ladies the sex went down hill. I'm hubby is also older. It's the changes we are going threw that's making us nuts.

I thought it was going well for you, Mami-

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It's going well but I was saying that I understand how you feel cuz I felt like that in the beginning.

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It's going well but I was saying that I understand how you feel cuz I felt like that in the beginning.

Mami you should post before and after pictures I noticed yu said you was 115 I would love to get down that far

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Mami you should post before and after pictures I noticed yu said you was 115 I would love to get down that far

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Mamasita

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You look amazing!

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Mami you look great! Then and now! Wish il get there one day inspiring!

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