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Hi everyone!!

I have been reading everyone's posts for the past few days and now want to introduce myself.

I am just starting out on this journey. The decision to have gastric bypass did not come easy. I always thought if could do it on my own if i would only try harder. I'm sure that many of you have felt the same way. But, things are just not happening for me the way that I want them to.

I just got married in May and my husband and I really wanted to get pregnant right away. Of course it did not happen. Mainly due to the weight and the fact that I have PCOS. I was trying to lose weight for the wedding because every girl wants to look their best on that day, and I was not successful. After the wedding I was trying to lose the weight agian and started to lose a little but it came right back on plus some. It was the week of Thanksgiving and I had a doctors appointment, went to the appointmant and not only did I gained weight but my blood pressure was high. My blood pressure has never been a problem. Then in the same week I visited my favorite Aunt. She is in her 60's and has so many health problems. I don't know if they are from her being obese for as long as I can remember but I'm sure it does. All of these things combined really got me scared and thinking. So on Thanksgiving I told my husband that I wanted to put off trying to have kids for a while and get gastric bypass.

He has been very supportive. He onlys wants me to do it if I want to. I kow quite a few people who have had this procedure done. They have all had success with little complications. One has even had 3 kids since having the operation. Even with knowing that it can be done and how wonderful they have all felt after losing the weight, I am still very nervous and scared. I have never had an operation nor been in the hospital....ever! This alone scares me. But I am also nervous of the potential risks and complications following the surgery. I am still moving forward with my plans but I just wanted to share my story with you and see if anyone else feels the same way.

So far I have been to a seminar, met with the surgeon and had blood work done. I just received my paperwork for what tests I need to have done and plan on making the appointments this week.

Thanks for reading and I hope to speak with all of you through out this journey.

Tara

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Tara

First of all welcome to the boards. While I am beyond child bearing years, there are many on the boards going thru your same issues. And of course we have all suffered from weight issues. I am glad you have found us. Good luck on your journey.

Kristy

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We have so much in common! I'm a newlywed as well and want to wait until after my surgery to start having children. I just got my labs, sleep study, chest xray and EKG done. Now I have to lose 17 lbs and hopefully I will get my surgery date!! Do you blog? I'd love to keep in contact and support eachother.

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Me and my husband have tried to have a baby but I am hoping that with the surgery that we may get to have one. I have been big all my life and I am so ready for the surgery that I can not wait. I would like to feel good about myself and hope that this will change my life.

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We have so much in common! I'm a newlywed as well and want to wait until after my surgery to start having children. I just got my labs' date=' sleep study, chest xray and EKG done. Now I have to lose 17 lbs and hopefully I will get my surgery date!! Do you blog? I'd love to keep in contact and support eachother.[/quote']

Hi, I do not blog but I would like to keep in contact with you through our journeys. I think it's a great idea and could really use the support of someone going through the same thing and emotions as me. Where do you blog? I hope to hear from you soon :)

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Welcome! I'm sure you'll find lots of support and answers on here :) I just wanted to say that I decided to have weight loss surgery in order to be able to have children one day. I was 252lbs at my heaviest and had PCOs. I just knew it wouldn't happen. Obviously, I think you're doing the right thing here. :) Again, welcome! :)

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Is love to support each other through this! There is a link to my blog in my signature. You should start one! It's a great way for me to sort through my feelings and struggles.

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