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Well we all made it thru to the other side some are still having problems but we will all make it thru this because we all support each other in every way there's no better place for our support but here cause were all basically going through the same thing just some of us with a few extra problems but we will SURIVE this because we are strong and fighting for are better life's

Your words gave me some hope..... This morning I woke up crying and feeling depressed. The worst feeling ever. I went to a friends house so I can get distracted. It worked while I was there, but when I came home it came back, and all I want to do is cry, I'm trying to hold it back for the sake of hubby and my kids. It is so hard, especially because I have no reason to be feeling like this. Everything is going fine, my weight is coming down, kids and hubby are full of health and we are doing OK economically. So I don't get it. And the funniest thing is that I started feeling like this after I watched the last Twilight movie last night. Every time I remember the movie I want to ball out crying. This is insane, I don't know why I feel like this. I did some research online and found out some people get depression after having Weight loss surgery and that it should go away in a couple of weeks. I'm so depressed and sent know what to so. Sorry I'm throwing my problems out there when some of you might be going through worse.

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My last time in the hospital when I was getting blood cause I had bleeding in my stomach I was crying and felt so like what had I've done to myself the nurse said it was good to cry it let out your fears I spent about 2 weeks for my surgery in 2 trips 6 days each time on last trip I asked my cardiac what had I did to my self (we have a long history together) he looked at me and said this was the best thing I had done for myself even with all the trouble I was having so try some Relaxation music and a little Mediations it helps I'm home all day alone and do this along with deep breathing it helps cause I can't drive till my heart gets a regular rytham and on occasion I will just cry but I put on the music and close my eyes and in a little it's ok

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Your words gave me some hope..... This morning I woke up crying and feeling depressed. The worst feeling ever. I went to a friends house so I can get distracted. It worked while I was there, but when I came home it came back, and all I want to do is cry, I'm trying to hold it back for the sake of hubby and my kids. It is so hard, especially because I have no reason to be feeling like this. Everything is going fine, my weight is coming down, kids and hubby are full of health and we are doing OK economically. So I don't get it. And the funniest thing is that I started feeling like this after I watched the last Twilight movie last night. Every time I remember the movie I want to ball out crying. This is insane, I don't know why I feel like this. I did some research online and found out some people get depression after having Weight loss surgery and that it should go away in a couple of weeks. I'm so depressed and sent know what to so. Sorry I'm throwing my problems out there when some of you might be going through worse.

I went through a pretty rough spot the first week to 10 days postop, but it did pass. I think it's part the "baby blues" experience of waiting for something for so long, then it happens, then... your life changes forever and you can't take it back. For me, I swear it was just the fact that I was on a Clear liquids diet the week after I came home, then trying to figure out what I could eat and how to eat it, etc.

To make matters worse, I lost a ton the first week, then completely stalled out the second week. But now that I'm eating more normally, visiting with friends, going out for the occasional Decaf skinny latte (counts as 12 ouces of milk!) I'm feeling more like a regular person.

Hang in there! Tis too shall pass!

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I went through a pretty rough spot the first week to 10 days postop' date=' but it did pass. I think it's part the "baby blues" experience of waiting for something for so long, then it happens, then... your life changes forever and you can't take it back. For me, I swear it was just the fact that I was on a Clear Liquids diet the week after I came home, then trying to figure out what I could eat and how to eat it, etc.

To make matters worse, I lost a ton the first week, then completely stalled out the second week. But now that I'm eating more normally, visiting with friends, going out for the occasional Decaf skinny latte (counts as 12 ouces of milk!) I'm feeling more like a regular person.

Hang in there! Tis too shall pass![/quote']

Wow I never thought of it that way, but it makes sense. This is very similar to the "baby blues" and in about a week or two after I had my baby it went away. So I'm really hoping that this won't last as long. But I just feel so alone, I feel like I don't have anyone to count on. I know I have hubby and kids, but I feel like I don't have any true friends, and I can't count on my family, they live too far away. I thought some people would of been more supportive. Hubby has to work and I have to stay home with the kids.

Tomorrow I'm going to be exactly one week post op, I weighed my self today and so far I've lost 12lbs. I still get tons of cravings and that makes this more difficult. I don't cheat or anything, I can't hold much down. But if I let my brain take over I think I would stuff my self like crazy. Thanks for your support, I am going to try and hold on as long as I can, and hopefully this will be all over and I can be me again.

Thanxs

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I know how you feel' date=' I have to take my pain meds on the hour, this pain is horrible, didn't think it was going to be this bad. And to be honest, I think I would of preferred to stay at least an extra day or two in the hospital. It is so hard to get in and out of bed, wish I have a hospital bed at home lol. But don't worry sooner than than later you'll be in the comfort of your home. Just try walking around, trust me it might not seem like anything, but it helps with the pain, it helps with the gas and helps you to be able to use the bathroom quicker. But don't have push your self, no one knows your body more than you do, so do things when you know your body is ready for it. I wish you the best of luck and the quickest of recovery.[/quote']

Thanks! U too.....

Hw 245; Pre-Op(RNY) 225.6; Surg Date 2/26; GW 145

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Your words gave me some hope..... This morning I woke up crying and feeling depressed. The worst feeling ever. I went to a friends house so I can get distracted. It worked while I was there' date=' but when I came home it came back, and all I want to do is cry, I'm trying to hold it back for the sake of hubby and my kids. It is so hard, especially because I have no reason to be feeling like this. Everything is going fine, my weight is coming down, kids and hubby are full of health and we are doing OK economically. So I don't get it. And the funniest thing is that I started feeling like this after I watched the last Twilight movie last night. Every time I remember the movie I want to ball out crying. This is insane, I don't know why I feel like this. I did some research online and found out some people get depression after having Weight loss surgery and that it should go away in a couple of weeks. I'm so depressed and sent know what to so. Sorry I'm throwing my problems out there when some of you might be going through worse.[/quote']

I have been crying and overly emotional myself.... It's either hormones, adjustment, and/or the post Surg remorse thing........ I don't know.

Hw 245; Pre-Op(RNY) 225.6; Surg Date 2/26; GW 145

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Wow I never thought of it that way' date=' but it makes sense. This is very similar to the "baby blues" and in about a week or two after I had my baby it went away. So I'm really hoping that this won't last as long. But I just feel so alone, I feel like I don't have anyone to count on. I know I have hubby and kids, but I feel like I don't have any true friends, and I can't count on my family, they live too far away. I thought some people would of been more supportive. Hubby has to work and I have to stay home with the kids.

Tomorrow I'm going to be exactly one week post op, I weighed my self today and so far I've lost 12lbs. I still get tons of cravings and that makes this more difficult. I don't cheat or anything, I can't hold much down. But if I let my brain take over I think I would stuff my self like crazy. Thanks for your support, I am going to try and hold on as long as I can, and hopefully this will be all over and I can be me again.

Thanxs[/quote']

I understand.... My need for support and not being able to manage the kids comfortably is why I am at my moms, which Is nowhere near where I live in MD..... But hubby thought it best and inlaws are helping him w kids..... Take a deep breath.... I know we can get thru this... No matter how it seems now

Hw 245; Pre-Op(RNY) 225.6; Surg Date 2/26; GW 145

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Wow I never thought of it that way, but it makes sense. This is very similar to the "baby blues" and in about a week or two after I had my baby it went away. So I'm really hoping that this won't last as long. But I just feel so alone, I feel like I don't have anyone to count on. I know I have hubby and kids, but I feel like I don't have any true friends, and I can't count on my family, they live too far away. I thought some people would of been more supportive. Hubby has to work and I have to stay home with the kids.

Tomorrow I'm going to be exactly one week post op, I weighed my self today and so far I've lost 12lbs. I still get tons of cravings and that makes this more difficult. I don't cheat or anything, I can't hold much down. But if I let my brain take over I think I would stuff my self like crazy. Thanks for your support, I am going to try and hold on as long as I can, and hopefully this will be all over and I can be me again.

Thanxs

Hang in there! The cravings all but disappeared for me by the end of the second week. Suddenly I need to remind myself to eat, and feel like I could survive on Water alone... It does get easier! :)

p.s. See you on Fabulous February Post-op!

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Hang in there! The cravings all but disappeared for me by the end of the second week. Suddenly I need to remind myself to eat' date=' and feel like I could survive on Water alone... It does get easier! :)

p.s. See you on Fabulous February Post-op![/quote']

Thank you Cecilia, I am feeling much better. I'm caring less and less for food. Which is awesome. :) but what's still bothering me is that I'm feeling down for no reason. Hopefully this too shall pass.

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Thank you Cecilia' date=' I am feeling much better. I'm caring less and less for food. Which is awesome. <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':)' /> but what's still bothering me is that I'm feeling down for no reason. Hopefully this too shall pass.[/quote']

Are you taking B12? It might be good to talk to your dr about your lows. There is help out there for depression.

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Are you taking B12? It might be good to talk to your dr about your lows. There is help out there for depression.

Yes I started taking them yesterday. I'm going to call my doctor tomorrow, thanks for the advice but I don't know I guess I just wanted to give this some time to go away before opting for depression pills. I really can't wait until I start feeling much better. I didn't think this was going to be so hard. And you are absolutely right, if there is help out there why am I suffering. Thank you so much.

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Yes I started taking them yesterday. I'm going to call my doctor tomorrow' date=' thanks for the advice but I don't know I guess I just wanted to give this some time to go away before opting for depression pills. I really can't wait until I start feeling much better. I didn't think this was going to be so hard. And you are absolutely right, if there is help out there why am I suffering. Thank you so much.[/quote']

The psych that does the evals for my program is totally available for sessions post op. he specializes in bariatrics, so that might be something to check out as well.

HW 344, DOS 320, Surgery Date 2/20/13, CW 308 Sent from my iPad using RNYTalk

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The psych that does the evals for my program is totally available for sessions post op. he specializes in bariatrics' date=' so that might be something to check out as well.

HW 344, DOS 320, Surgery Date 2/20/13, CW 308 Sent from my iPad using RNYTalk[/quote']

I went to a support group last night and the psych that was there was the one I saw pre-op I talked to her and she said that she is available, so Monday, I'm calling to schedule an appointment.

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I went to a support group last night and the psych that was there was the one I saw pre-op I talked to her and she said that she is available' date=' so Monday, I'm calling to schedule an appointment.[/quote']

That's great! I'm a huge fan of therapy if only to be able to talk things out with someone not invested in the situation. Way to go!

HW 344, DOS 320, Surgery Date 2/20/13, CW 302 Sent from my iPad using RNYTalk

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