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Yesterday my paperwork was submitted to my insurance and I got word that they want me to complete 6 month of supervised weight loss. We submitted 7 months of me seeing a nutritionist/ dietician along with monthly weigh in and food logs. So now I have to do 6 more months because a doctor didn't do my weigh in. I feel like giving up. Sorry for the rant.

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please don't give up that would just let the insurance company win i had to do a 6 mo i can change program for mine it was all together 10mos from start to surgery it is worth whatever hoops you need to jump thru to do this for yourself

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I no it my seem like forever but the six months will pass fast ad sometmes if u submit again after 3 months they will approve u they just wanna see that u are serious I no how u feel i had to go through it twice and it sucked but it came fast and here i am 2 weeks away and terrified

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Yesterday my paperwork was submitted to my insurance and I got word that they want me to complete 6 month of supervised weight loss. We submitted 7 months of me seeing a nutritionist/ dietician along with monthly weigh in and food logs. So now I have to do 6 more months because a doctor didn't do my weigh in. I feel like giving up. Sorry for the rant.

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Do not give up that is what they want you to do, if you want this, fight for it as it is so worth it! There are many members here that have had to do the six months also and it will be over before you know it!

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Thanks everyone, it feels great to hear motivation from others. I need this surgery and six months seems like its going to take forever but you all are right I'm going to fight for this. I can't tell you how much better I feel reading your replies.

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I know it seems forever but the first few months flew by. I had so many test to get done that they required and if you have that broken up once a month plus weigh ins it makes it go faster

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My six months flew by. The hoops are worth it!! Hang in there.

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So sorry, I know that is a downer but six more months is a lot better than spending the rest of your life un happy, overweight and un healthy. You will get your YES AND SURGERY DATE IN SIX MONTHS...look at the bright side that's all you need and YOU ARE APPROVED!!! Just a set back not a NO, so many people get a NO, you didn't. Get ready for your day it's coming:-) We are right with you!

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Thanks everyone. I guess I will take this time to prepare myself more for surgery.

FinerWoman: Thanks, looking at it that way makes does makes a difference in going through the six months.

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Stay with it!! We are here for you and like the other person said, it wasn't a no and in six months you'll have a date!! I'm so nervous that my insurance is going to do something like that. I have my last Psych appt on Oct. 17th and I need to lose 17lbs by then for the clinic to submit my info to insurance. I've been at this since July and expecting a date somewhere in Nov/ Dec timeframe. If I get told it'll be another six months out or it's a no I don't know what I'll do but I'll be very discouraged also. I will stick with it and do what's required but man will I be pissed!! Just sayin. So I understand where you're coming from but just know there's a light at the end of your long tunnel!! We're here for ya!!

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