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I'm wondering if I'm the only one who is fearing the food Funeral more than actually going into surgery? I've been thinking about it...and watching YouTube. You see these video diaries and these people are sobbing uncontrollably...I've been lucky in life not really losing anyone I loved other than my grandparents and two pets...neither of which were closer to me than food...HELP :(

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I had a fear of losing food at first but I had to decide what I wanted more food or good health. So I choose to change the way I think . I now look at the surgery as a tool to help me retrain myself and to teach me to control the food and not to have the food control me. I am a week post surgery and am down 14 pounds. There is no hunger what so ever so there for I am

Not having the cravings that I thought I would and food was my best friend. I am great full for this surgery. I wish you the best of luck with all of it.

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I had not thought of missing the food. I do love to eat. Hmmm. I just am so so tired and feel so unhealthy. I want so badly to be healthier.

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About 2 weeks after getting banded I realized I'd lost my lifelong companion....my 'friend' who was there for every celebration, every heart break, every important event in my life had been marked by food....I had not expected the feeling of loss that I felt!!!!! I wallowed for a few days then moved on but man I was a shock!

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About 2 weeks after getting banded I realized I'd lost my lifelong companion....my 'friend' who was there for every celebration' date=' every heart break, every important event in my life had been marked by food....I had not expected the feeling of loss that I felt!!!!! I wallowed for a few days then moved on but man I was a shock![/quote']

Thank you SoccerMomma!!! I know by your words that you have experienced exactly what I'm dreading. TOTALLY GOING TO BE WORTH IT!!!

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I guess this is where the counseling and support groups come in. I know I am going to need them. I am such an emotional eater.

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It's kind of weird but what has helped me is going out. We went to ruby Tuesday's today and I just had a side of mashed potatoes but more importantly I got to socialize. I have found that while I do miss food, I was more afraid of missing the social aspect that come along with it.

I miss food too but at the same time I have learned to love the food I am eatting. Just have to learn to adapt and get thru the missing some of the other food issues. Remember though, your doing this for health. And with it comes some sacrifice, but you can get thru this.

Surgiversary 07/24/12 Sent from my iPhone.

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I think part of my issue was that my surgery was the week before Christmas, I was on liquids, still not used to it and just felt, well, alone I guess...you do get over it :)

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It's like a saying I've heard over and over. "Eat to live, Don't live to eat" Easier said than done eh, but it does make sense.

food has always been a "big" part of my life, (no pun there, lol). I know I"m going to miss it, but then I tell my self, "Self, put on your big girl panties and get over it. You are going to go thru all this for a reason, don't dwell on what you are going to miss, dwell on how much your life is going to change for the better, and how cute you're going to look in those jeans from Old Navy that you didn't have to "special" order from their online plus size site." :)

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