Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Recommended Posts

Im just at the beginning stages and my husband says he doesnt care what i do as long as it doesnt affext me. I told him what sipport meant and he said hes not babinf me and go to mental healgh for supporr emotionally any suggestions

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Im just at the beginning stages and my husband says he doesnt care what i do as long as it doesnt affext me. I told him what sipport meant and he said hes not babinf me and go to mental healgh for supporr emotionally any suggestions

Sounds like you will have to do this on your own. It's possible you will have all of us here. Do you have support from your parents and friends? I wish you the best stay strong and do what is best for you. Maybe your hubby will come around.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Oh no I'm sorry :( my husband supports me 100% and that has helped me so far. You have all of us here that will support u :) support is very big especially to make this surgery work for u. I hope he starts supporting u soon.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I'm sorry best of luck to you.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I am a single mom of 3 so its going to be a long road for me too. But I believe it is totally possible and if you believe in yourself you will be a success. Hang in there!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

What's up with these men!!! We ate each other support group.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

It won't be easy, but hopefully we can all support and help each other. My husband eats more, smokes more and goes back and forth on his helpfulness since my surgery. I feel like I'm on a path towards health and happiness and my husband is going in the opposite direction.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Ik that feeling he wont give up his junk food he can eat a whole box of ice cream bars in one day plus

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Surgeons and hospitals often have support groups and they are powerful. They usually have gastric bypass patients in all stages from pre-op to years post-op and everything in between. Great place to make friends since you have a lot in common right from the git-go. Most of these folks are open books and you can ask them anything that you can imagine and usually get an open, honest answer. Friends and other family members are usually supportive as well. And this forum - O M G! So many knowledgeable folks who are anxious to share their experiences and help anyone who needs it. You're on a life changing journey and the absence of one person's support cannot defeat your commitment. You're gonna love the new you!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

It won't be easy' date=' but hopefully we can all support and help each other. My husband eats more, smokes more and goes back and forth on his helpfulness since my surgery. I feel like I'm on a path towards health and happiness and my husband is going in the opposite direction.[/quote']

I feel you girl. My issue is I don't mind not eating but hearing I want pizza drives me nuts especially when I was a pizza lover.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

were here for ya =)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Just leave him if he won't support you. Why deal with that?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Just leave him if he won't support you. Why deal with that?

She probably has a little more invested in him than to just leave him just to not deal with it. Husbands are people too. Don't give up on him, I'm sure he'll come around. She's just frustrated and I get that. Wishing you the best:)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Men are a---h--- they say one thing do the other.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Men are a---h--- they say one thing do the other.

Thats a very broad statement.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • vsg.with.sharon

      Hey everyone!
      I’m new here! Looking for some friends! 🥰
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • LeighaTR

      Four days post surgery. I am sipping as fast as I can and getting NO WHERE near the goal of 60 - 80 grams of protein or the 64 oz of liquids. I just feel FULL. I don't know if it can still be the gas build up (I would think by now that would be gone) but it is a struggle to drink. And so far I have not had the nausea or spasms and don't want to wander into that territory by pushing too hard with liquids. I about passed out today as it was my most "strenuous" day. Went from second story to basement for shower and I was sure I was going to pass out. Looking back on my last few days I have had a total of less than 1000 calories. Am I just not getting enough nourishment in me? Once again a friday where I can't get ahold of the doc until Monday rolls back around so I am hoping maybe someone here has some experience on how to keep energy going. I do have fibromyalgia too and that may be where some added fatigue comes into play. How did you all fair with the goals the week after surgery?
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      2 days until I fly out to San Diego to have my Bypass Surg. in Tiajuana Mexico. Not gonna lie, the nerves are starting to surface. I don't fear the surgery itself, or the fact that I'm traveling alone, but its the aftermath that I'm stressing about the most, after this 8 week wait. I'm excited to finally be here, but I am really dreading the post surgical chapter. I know its going to be tough, real tough and I think I'm just in my head to much now that the day i here. Wish me luck, Hopefully I'm one of the lucky ones, and everything goes smoothly. Cant wait to give an exciting update,. If there is anyone else have a June bypass or even a recent one, Id love to have someone to compare war stories with. Also, anyone near San Antonio Tx? See ya soon with the future me. 💜
      · 3 replies
      1. Phil Penn

        Good Luck this procedure is well worth it I am down to 249.6 lb please continue with the process..

      2. Selina333

        I'm in Houston so kind of near you and had the sleeve in Dec. Down 61 lbs. Feeling better. Was definitely worth it. I hope the everything is going well for you. Update us when you can!

      3. Doughgurl

        I am back home after my bypass surgery in Tiajuana. I'm post op day 4. Everything went great! I guess I'm one of the lucky ones who have not encountered much pain at all, no nausea thus far and I'm having no problem keeping down broths and water. Thank you for your well wishes. I cant wait to keep up this journey and have a chance at better health and simply better quality of life. I know there will be bumps in the road ahead, and everything won't be peaches and cream, but at least I have a great start so far. 😍

    • LeighaTR

      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
      · 2 replies
      1. Selina333

        I'm so happy for you! You are about to change your life. I was so glad to get the sleeve done in Dec. I didn't have feelings of regret overall. And I'm down almost 60 lbs. I do feel a little sad at restaurants. I can barely eat half a kid's meal. I get adults meals often because kid ones don't have the same offerings at times. Then I feel obligated to eat on that until it's gone and that can be days. So the restaurant thing isn't great for me. All the rest is fine by me! I love feeling full with very little. I do wish I could drink when eating. And will sip at the end. Just a strong habit to stop. But I'm working on it! You will do fine! Just keep focused on your desire to be different. Not better or worse. But different. I am happy both ways but my low back doesn't like me that heavy. So I listened (also my feet!). LOL! Update us on your journey! I'm not far from you. I'm in Houston. Good luck and I hope it all goes smoothly! Would love to see pics of the town you go to for this. I've never been there. Neat you will be traveling for this! Enjoy the journey. Take it one day at a time. Sometimes a few hours at a time. Follow all recommendations as best you can. 💗

      2. Doughgurl

        Thank you so much for your well wishes. I am hoping that everything goes easy for me as well. We don't eat out much as it is, so it wont be too bad in that department. Thankfully. Also, I hear you regarding your back and feet!! I'd like to add knees to the list. Killing me as we speak! I'm only 5' so the weight has to go. Too short to carry all this weight. Menopause really did a doosey on me. (😶lol) My daughter also lives in Houston. with her Husband and my 5 grand-littles. I grew up in Beaumont, so I know Houston well, I will be sure to keep in touch and update you on my journey. I may need some advice in the future, or just motivation. Thank You so much for reaching out, I was hoping to connect with someone in the community. I really appreciate it. 💜

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×