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lifesshortlive247    1

lifesshortlive247
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I am a single mom of 3 and know i want surgery but i am freaking out about how i am going to take care of my kids and house after sergery. I just need a friend to go through it with me.

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eglean2    24

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I am sorry you are feeling this way but understand what you are going through. Keep positive! I have found a lot of support on this site! I am starting over with a new program myself and the words of wisdom here is invaluable!

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lifesshortlive247    1

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Thank you i have no support and i am hopping i can find it here if i can figure out this app lol I know this is good for me. My other health issues have caused me to do this. I have been wanting to do this for a long time but not brave enough to do it. I am 4' 11" and 258 i lost 38 pounds last year changing the way i eat and exercize.

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Jessica89    16

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Good luck! And stay positive! Im just getting started with the process as well. Im a few appointments into it. If you ever want to talk or need someone to talk to im a talker! LoL just let me know :) hang in there.

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lifesshortlive247    1

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I am just beginning also i have been to all my apps now just waiting to talk to the Dr. What are you doing the sleeve or Gyastric? I can not decide and it is comming close. I like the idea of the sleeve but i like the GP how do you decide?

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Txsmama    22

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I am just beginning also i have been to all my apps now just waiting to talk to the Dr. What are you doing the sleeve or Gyastric? I can not decide and it is comming close. I like the idea of the sleeve but i like the GP how do you decide?

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I originally set out to have the sleeve. When I had my first appointment with my surgeon, he said I might want to consider gastric bypass because I had severe acid reflux and sometimes the sleeve makes it worse. He also said the gastric bypass usually has better weightloss results, and they are more likely to be long term. So, thats why I chose the gastric bypass, among other things. But, there is a lot more research and longterm studies out for the gastric bypass than the sleeve, although many people seem to do just fine with the sleeve. Ultimately it comes down to you and your specific comorbidities as well. I don't know about the sleeve, but I know many who had diabetes gets better almost instantly with gastric bypass. So, do some research on both surgeries and discuss them with your surgeon. Hope this helps!

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lifesshortlive247    1

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OMG yes it does I have been feeling like i want both lol i am leaning to GP i want my diabetes to get better. I want long trem effects.

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lifesshortlive247    1

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Ok have another concern I have hade a cold for a wile now and i am afraid it is not going away if it is not gone before may 11 they are going to push my sugery back i just know it. Cold med's the works nothing is working. Any home remides?

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Jessica89    16

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I chose the gastric bypass because you lose weight quicker and they have seen better results with it. The sleeve wasn't even an option for me where im from, its more for people that are in the higher 400's is what my doctor told me. I orginally wanted to get the lap band surgery but it takes longer for the weight to come off with that surgery and I would like it to come off quickly. To answer your question about the cold....my surgeon told me that they would not perform the surgery if I was sick at all or lacking in B12. But every surgeon is different.

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samjene74    4

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I have my appointment with my surgeon on 5/22 I am nervous but I have to loose weight

I am scared about the surgery and being able to do the pre op liquids

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Erin    25

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Hi there! My name is Erin, and I totally know what your going through. Im a single mom too and was petrified up until they knocked me out in pre-op and wheeled me in the OR. They had me wait 4hours longer than expected and the patient before me coded!!!! I even remember making the joke if we didn't get this show on the road I was so nervous I'm gonna jump off this gurney and run to the nearest buffet! Lol. But I knew in my heart this was chance at a healthier life......and I better go for it. Also I knew ahead just how scared I would be so I made a list of all my reasons I chose this decision......and reading it before surgery helped to calm my nerves. I am an RN ......and I think that made matters worse. Sometimes ignorance is bliss.....lol. If you need anyone to talk to just let me know. I know its hard to describe to other people what your feeling when it comes to weight loss surgery, unless they are going through the same thing. Good luck!

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lifesshortlive247    1

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Thank you so much. My mom knows i am having gastric bypass but dad does not we are not telling him till that day. He has anxiety and he does not need to stress about me. I am finding it hard because i can not talk to mom. Dad is always around. My friends do not get it they are all thin. My sisters do not understand but they are supportive.

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lifesshortlive247    1

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I have my appointment with my surgeon on 5/22 I am nervous but I have to loose weight

I am scared about the surgery and being able to do the pre op liquids

I feel the same way. Glad i do not have to do it alone thanks to all of you on this app.

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berniec    166

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Ok have another concern I have hade a cold for a wile now and i am afraid it is not going away if it is not gone before may 11 they are going to push my sugery back i just know it. Cold med's the works nothing is working. Any home remides?

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Try some brandy in your tea. The more the merrier.

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      1. Selina333

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    • Alisa_S

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

        LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

    • CaseyP1011

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      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
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