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RJ'S/beginning    5,358

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The last 2 weeks I have changed..or my body has...I now have a tube around my middle and it sticks out father then my stomach and over top of my jeans...I feel so fat and ugly...I keep crying about it...Hubby tried to take an update picture since I am down another 30 lbs. But I said i did not like any of them... My middle is too big...... :(

I can only handle Spanx when I go out... And most of the time they don't fit properly and roll down or..never mind I won't give all the details about the problems I am having with Spanx......I feel like I am getting bigger because of how far it sticks out.....

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RJ'S/beginning    5,358

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The last 2 weeks I have changed..or my body has...I now have a tube around my middle and it sticks out father then my stomach and over top of my jeans...I feel so fat and ugly...I keep crying about it...Hubby tried to take an update picture since I am down another 30 lbs. But I said i did not like any of them... My middle is too big...... :(

I can only handle Spanx when I go out... And most of the time they don't fit properly and roll down or..never mind I won't give all the details about the problems I am having with Spanx......I feel like I am getting bigger because of how far it sticks out.....

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The last 2 weeks I have changed..or my body has...I now have a tube around my middle and it sticks out father then my stomach and over top of my jeans...I feel so fat and ugly...I keep crying about it...Hubby tried to take an update picture since I am down another 30 lbs. But I said i did not like any of them... My middle is too big...... :( I can only handle Spanx when I go out... And most of the time they don't fit properly and roll down or..never mind I won't give all the details about the problems I am having with Spanx......I feel like I am getting bigger because of how far it sticks out.....

Aw, RJ! I'm so sorry!! I wonder what's going on? I know you have lost a lot!! Is it skin? Are you just being hard on yourself?

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The last 2 weeks I have changed..or my body has...I now have a tube around my middle and it sticks out father then my stomach and over top of my jeans...I feel so fat and ugly...I keep crying about it...Hubby tried to take an update picture since I am down another 30 lbs. But I said i did not like any of them... My middle is too big...... :( I can only handle Spanx when I go out... And most of the time they don't fit properly and roll down or..never mind I won't give all the details about the problems I am having with Spanx......I feel like I am getting bigger because of how far it sticks out.....

Aw, RJ! I'm so sorry!! I wonder what's going on? I know you have lost a lot!! Is it skin? Are you just being hard on yourself?

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Aw, RJ! I'm so sorry!! I wonder what's going on? I know you have lost a lot!! Is it skin? Are you just being hard on yourself?

No it's skin...and it is driving me nuts....I went down a size in clothes and they all fit except the result has been this tube of whatever hanging over my jeans...i feel like I can't even stand myself right now.....crap :(

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Sleeved in Seattle    280

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Wah! That's no fair - you've been through too much. Tell that brain of yours to go take a hike. You do look good!

And I hear you about Spanx - spawn of the devil they are.

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I have that too. It will deflate and hardly be noticeable, but it's super tough waiting for it to go down. It helps if you avoid clingy materials like t-shirts and go for button-up cotton shirts or tops with an empire waist or ones that flare out a bit near the bottom. And high-waisted jeans help too. I find that wearing a belt keeps the jeans from slipping down.

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I have that too. It will deflate and hardly be noticeable, but it's super tough waiting for it to go down. It helps if you avoid clingy materials like t-shirts and go for button-up cotton shirts or tops with an empire waist or ones that flare out a bit near the bottom. And high-waisted jeans help too. I find that wearing a belt keeps the jeans from slipping down.

I buy my clothes at a thrift shop so it is difficult to find just the right things to wear...Yes in Canada it is stating to get colder and we are into light sweaters...guess I can't wear them till I deflate... :(

Thanks guys for your words of encouragement!

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I have that same issue with the spare tire that won't deflate. I have always been a fan of wearing a coat, jacket or blazer. This helps me hide it. I have discovered a new bodyshaper item that I am loving. It is a shaper tank. It is just like the Spanx body shaper that you can wear your bra with except that it stops at the bottom of you pooch and covers about 2/3rds of your rear. It does not have the awful bra clasps in the crotch region.

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I buy my clothes at a thrift shop so it is difficult to find just the right things to wear...Yes in Canada it is stating to get colder and we are into light sweaters...guess I can't wear them till I deflate... :(

Thanks guys for your words of encouragement!

Where in Canada do you live? I'm in Kelowna BC!

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Where in Canada do you live? I'm in Kelowna BC!

your a West coaster, I am an East coaster.. :) ...

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The last 2 weeks I have changed..or my body has...I now have a tube around my middle and it sticks out father then my stomach and over top of my jeans...I feel so fat and ugly...I keep crying about it...Hubby tried to take an update picture since I am down another 30 lbs. But I said i did not like any of them... My middle is too big...... :(

I can only handle Spanx when I go out... And most of the time they don't fit properly and roll down or..never mind I won't give all the details about the problems I am having with Spanx......I feel like I am getting bigger because of how far it sticks out.....

I saw these tank top type spanks today called flexees from maidenform. You might be able to wear that because it's like a tank top and would flatten it out. Google them or go on Amazon and see if they have them. I am right there with you that is why I know about them! Good luck! :)

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I have that too, but flexes help...any type of spandex type camisole. Also I make sure my jeans are a little loose fitting at the waist. My spare tire inflates the tighter my waistband is

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I have that same issue with the spare tire that won't deflate. I have always been a fan of wearing a coat, jacket or blazer. This helps me hide it. I have discovered a new bodyshaper item that I am loving. It is a shaper tank. It is just like the Spanx body shaper that you can wear your bra with except that it stops at the bottom of you pooch and covers about 2/3rds of your rear. It does not have the awful bra clasps in the crotch region.

Just went on Ebay and bought 2 of them..Thank you for your advice......I wear jackets, and sweaters all the time...I hope these will help with pulling it all in... :)

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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