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ARG! 1st I'm irritated that there are people with the sleeve who can have pizza, eggs, cereal(with liquid not dry) and don't feel sick when eating most food. I'm 7 months out and there are a lot of foods that don't agree with me...ALOT. I was so unbelievably hungry today and every single meal or snack ended in disaster today. I was out in the world, instead of at home, and realized that every single restaurant around didn't have any non fried, fresh food that wasn't a salad (lettuce and all its friends hate me in a vicious kind of way) and wasn't just a piece of grilled chicken. I just broke down and cried. My husband felt bad cause he knows how much I struggle and he wishes there was a solution. I felt so bad about us going out and not eating that I tried a teriyaki place we love but I wasn't feeling it. I only ate maybe an ounce of chicken then o...m...gosh. I got shaking violently ill and had to rush to my car because I didn't want to cry or vomit in front of people. 1st time that has ever happened in a restaurant. Just very frustrated and not feeling well. and well...this is really the only place I can complain and have the hope someone understands.

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we all understand and we all are here for you. it is my prayer this will improve for you.

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Wow are you dealing with any anxiety issues concerning your lifestyle change? At 7 months out I would think by now you may be able to enjoy at least something you like. Hopefully this will improve but if it doesn't you will need to adjust to your new relationship with food. I hope you do improve and pray that you and your family will remain supportive during your time of need.

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aww thanks you guys. I do have anxiety about food. I'm anxious over having to think about it so much. How's my stomach feeling? Can I eat that? and the biggie...what do I want...oh gosh that question seriously gets to me. My recipes are limited right now...mostly because my stomach and brain are on the fritz ;) Thanks for letting me have my internet screaming hitting head on desk moment lol

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Perhaps your anxiety is causing your body to react in this way. I know everyone is different etc. but there should at least be a handful of things you could choose to eat on a menu? Fish options? Vegetarian options? Sometimes I even order the cheese and biscuits which are a dessert option and I have mainly the cheese... If you're not so anxious you will find yourself relaxing and enjoying a meal more. When I had my band, I used to be terribly anxious and almost without fail, I'd walk in a restaurant, and even the first mouthful of Soup would have me vomiting in the bathroom. Eating out can still be a very pleasurable experience. I'm off to meet a friend at an Italian restaurant this afternoon.. I'm having roasted monkfish and prawns on a bed of sweet potato mash. Yes I'll only probably manage half the portion or less and a mouthful of mash, but I'm still out enjoying myself.. It can be done :)

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Wow are you dealing with any anxiety issues concerning your lifestyle change? At 7 months out I would think by now you may be able to enjoy at least something you like. Hopefully this will improve but if it doesn't you will need to adjust to your new relationship with food. I hope you do improve and pray that you and your family will remain supportive during your time of need.

I am out at a family style brunch right now so I feel your pain. Hope I don't fill up on the couple appetizers. I feel a doggie bag in my future! There still are options and often the chef cook can modify a dish for you. Don't fry, omit an ingredient. I am also ok with throwing out the bread from a sandwich or leaving the lettuce from a salad. Give it a try. I hope this gets be tt er for you.

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So sorry your having trouble. It is important to be able to go out with family and friends and enjoy yourself in that social setting without feeling frustration and sick. How are you with fish? I found backed fish worked well for me at 7 months. It's not has hard to get down as chicken and still has the Protein. Most places serve some for of backed Talapia or Salmon. Be sure your not drinking before or during your meal. I also found solice with Chili. I've been at a restaurant and couldn't find a baked meal, and asked to see the manager.. then politely asked for an item that was on the menu as fried and asked them to bake it..they were more than happy to comply. What do you eat at home that goes down well? Hang in there.. Speaking from a 2 year sleever,, it really gets better and your tool will eventually become your friend.

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