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Well I opened my big mouth to one friend that I thought would understand. I got silence at first then she answered "hmmmm" to everything so I guess I should have kept my mouth shut. Anyway that was a learning experience, I'm not telling anyone until after the surgery. For crying out loud, it's nerve racking enough without having people relating horror stories to me.

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So far (surgery is 3 wks) I have told Mom,sis, BFF and husband. They are all very supportive. I telecommute so work has no idea. The others in my life that have to know I am having a surgery I will probably say "gallbladder". I have enough on my head and I just feel better this way for now. Who knows if that will change. I really believe that we only have to answer to ourselves.

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I'm almost 9 months post-op and about 90lbs down and my husband is still the only person to know. I only took 3 days off work and had an easy recovery. My weight loss has been at a rate that could be achieved in many ways...not just surgery. So there hasn't been any speculation - at least not to my face.

I'm a private person. I don't broadcast any of my personal medical information or procedures to people - elective or not.

Still very happy with my choice to keep my personal life personal.

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I'm a complete idiot. I told my younger sister (40 yrs old) that I am having it done and because I'm going to Mexico she had a fit. I wish I had just kept my mouth shut and left in 10 days without saying a word to anyone other than my adult son. So later today I will be at a family bbq and will have to tell my father and older sister (she is a nurse) because if I don't the younger sister will. Not that any of them will change my mind but I really dont want to hear it.

I spoke to my pcp on friday and he is on board with me going to Mexico. Very supportive. In fact he told me to stay away from anyone that was negative about my decision and to do what I knew was best for me. So that is eactly what I'm going to do. If the older sister and dad have a problem with it I will go home and call them when I get home on the 17th.

As far as friends and co-workers go...I've told several and most have been supportive. All are scared that I have chose to go alone but that is exactly how I want it.

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I'm a complete idiot. I told my younger sister (40 yrs old) that I am having it done and because I'm going to Mexico she had a fit. I wish I had just kept my mouth shut and left in 10 days without saying a word to anyone other than my adult son. So later today I will be at a family bbq and will have to tell my father and older sister (she is a nurse) because if I don't the younger sister will. Not that any of them will change my mind but I really dont want to hear it.

I spoke to my pcp on friday and he is on board with me going to Mexico. Very supportive. In fact he told me to stay away from anyone that was negative about my decision and to do what I knew was best for me. So that is eactly what I'm going to do. If the older sister and dad have a problem with it I will go home and call them when I get home on the 17th.

As far as friends and co-workers go...I've told several and most have been supportive. All are scared that I have chose to go alone but that is exactly how I want it.

I'm in the same boat! Have decided not to tell my family because they aren't supportive at all. Can't tell my supervisor at work because she's a blabber mouth. Just decided to keep my secret all to myself!

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I've been completely transparent about having WLS.

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It's my business and I do not feel that I want to share it with others. My husband is very supportive of my decision both to have the surgery and to keep it quiet.

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Only my emidiate family knows. I don't feel it's nessasary to share this with my coworkers. They'll just think I'm finally losing weight on one of the five million diets I've been on. I've seen how they gossip about the lady who clearly has plastic surgery... I prefer not to be the subject of gossip at work. My body...my business.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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