Did she really just ask me that?

[jc2008 55]

Yesterday at work a woman pointed out that she noticed I had lost some weight. I thanked her and was glad people were starting to notice. Then she said... Well, why are you trying to loose weight??! Ummm.. Really! I said well. I'm fat aren't I? Lol. She laughed and moved on. Seriously, why?

[Arts137 1,811]

"so that we'd have something to talk about."

[aliekat55 157]

had the same question. Hellooo. from someone that has a bmi in the high 30's-- a woman who doesn't know why we would want to lose weight? i told her that i was under the impresion that losing weight would be a good thing. and she went ---oh yeah.

[Roo101769 742]

While it seems like and odd question with an obvious answer, maybe she was curious if there was something specific going on. A lot of people want to lose weight for a reunion, for a wedding, to try to get pregnant, going on vacation etc. Perhaps that is what she was trying to ask, but failed miserably doing so! LOL

[gmanbat 5,889]

Then there are the folks who defend obesity as a civil rights issue. "Love yourself the way you are" taken to ridiculous levels. We have brains to change the way we are if the way we are is destructive and can be changed.

Obesity kills, I gladly gave up my "right" to be fat.

[tigerbelle 328]

it's not really a justification but lots of people (myself at times even) just lack tact...that doesn't mean the comment was well-intended, just that you cannot assume there was ill intent

[BKLYNgal87 503]

Yesterday an old colleague of mine (who retired a few months ago) came by the office to visit (she's an odd bird ) and noticed my weight loss immediately. She then proceeded to start prying as to what I was doing. Since she was more a frenemy than a friend I was adamant that "I eat a lot less and I exercise". Which, honestly, nothing could be further from the truth! She said "Yeah but everyone does that. What are you doing differently?" All I could think to say was "I dunno... succeeding?" Lol.

[Diane22 44]

Some people feel safer asking if you are trying to loose weight when they are secretly wondering if you are sick (cancer, etc...). Who knows what the person's real motivation was. And, does it really matter. Focus on the good things in life and ignore the rest. Life is easier and more pleasant tat way. Enjoy your new journey and all the good stuff that cones with it.

[gmanbat 5,889]

Some people feel safer asking if you are trying to loose weight when they are secretly wondering if you are sick (cancer, etc...). Who knows what the person's real motivation was. And, does it really matter. Focus on the good things in life and ignore the rest. Life is easier and more pleasant tat way. Enjoy your new journey and all the good stuff that cones with it.

Wow, that is the truth, Dianne! Rapid weight loss especially brings out the curiosity and concern.

Remarks by people are interesting to analyze, (why they said what they said), but not to worry over.

[jc2008 55]

I agree with most of u who posted above. The woman who asked is a nice lady (a little awkward), "appears" to be comfortable with her 40ish bmi, and I think she liked me fat. the question just threw me for a loop. I had thought of many questions to come but really was surprised by that one because when first asked I didn't think .... , I thought it was such a "duh" answer. But like many of you have stated, there are lots of reasons to loose weight. Anyway, it felt good to have people start to notice a change in me

[BKLYNgal87 503]

I agree with most of u who posted above. The woman who asked is a nice lady (a little awkward), "appears" to be comfortable with her 40ish bmi, and I think she liked me fat. the question just threw me for a loop. I had thought of many questions to come but really was surprised by that one because when first asked I didn't think .... , I thought it was such a "duh" answer. But like many of you have stated, there are lots of reasons to loose weight. Anyway, it felt good to have people start to notice a change in me

Life is full of choices. Sounds like you made the right one for yourself! It does feel nice when people notice though

[Pookeyism 1,143]

We rehired a gentleman we had to let go in 2010, and he had not seen me since. I felt so sorry for him, he asked one of the girls "is she ok? I mean, is everything ok?".

It turns out his sister lost alot of weight as she battled some serious health issues. I think that might happen alot, it is so unusual to lose alot of weight and keep it off to the point your body really starts to adjust around it. He was just wondering if I had similar issues, that maybe he could offer to talk to my hubby (he did grief and support training for his sister).

You never can tell what people's intentions are...but you will know soon enough if her intentions are less than nice.

[nyorker 67]

I lost. 20lb in 7 days after surgery is that normal? A person who had surgery with after me same Dr only lost 7lbs..

[Snufflegus 80]

I lost. 20lb in 7 days after surgery is that normal? A person who had surgery with after me same Dr only lost 7lbs..

I lost 21 in my first week, my husband lost 13. Just how everyone's body is different no worries!

[jc2008 55]

I lost. 20lb in 7 days after surgery is that normal? A person who had surgery with after me same Dr only lost 7lbs..

Everyone is different but that's awesome for you. I'm sure alot of it was Water weight and I think it depends on your preop diet as well. If you're on a strict diet for 1 month prior to surgery you won't loose so significantly right after surgery because You've already lost a good bit in preop and Water. But for those who have no preop diet - you can get a really drastic number immediately post op. either way - consider yourself lucky not abnormal. I don't know any of us that wouldn't want to loose 20 Lbs in 1 week!!