Ye Olde Head Case

[LipstickLady 25,682]

One of the philosophies that is pounded into us at my martial arts dojang is "Belief is stronger than truth or fact". Think about that.

[BKLYNgal87 503]

That girl in your profile pic is still you. If you attained her before, you can get her back and then some. But remember at the end of the day, she's still inside you. You are capable of feeling as good now as you did then. And maybe a more positive attitude is the thing you haven't tried?

Whenever you want to downplay your incredible accomplishments you should remember how far you've come. Look at old pictures of yourself. Where would you be now if you never had sleeve surgery? I am sure I will come to know how hard maintenance is, though I'm still a long way away. I know many people who struggle, including my mother who lost 50 lbs when she got into competitive ballroom dancing. She now loses and gains the same 10 lbs every year. It frustrates her sometimes but she still feels much better about herself now than she did because losing the excess weight and dancing her heart out gave her a confidence she never knew.

When I get to the point where I don't jiggle an embarassing amount I promised myself I'd start taking hip hop dance lessons again because it's both great exercise and because mastering dance routines makes me proud of my body and what it is capable of. Another thing to try perhaps when your strains heal?

[soocalchic 1,087]

I wonder' date=' am I the only one who finds that "My Body gallery" really depressing? I always feel worse after looking at it, not better, not uplifted. Because I type in my goal weight and the women still look a little soft and chunky. and since I am a solid 30 lbs away from that, I still look chubbyfat. I typed in my current weight, and yup, those women look like they are walking the fine edge of chubby and fat. Then I typed in my pre-op high, which is over 100 lbs heavier than I am now, and I SWEAR TO YOU, I saw no difference between one of the pics there and the pic at my current weight. They looked the SAME to me. If you had shown me those pics and asked me to say how much heavier the one was, I might have said, "20 lbs maybe?" Not 100. I also typed in the lowest weight I've been since sleeve, when I was a total gym rat 7 days a week crossfit pilates maniac, and even that looks soft curvy and slightly chub. When do I get to stop being the fat girl!?![/quote']

Strip down get naked take pics of yourself, that way you can make a comparison nobody's body type is spot on so looking at other women's pics for reference is useless. Specially when that fat b***h that weights 100 lbs over is wearing a girdle lmao.

[TwinsMama 483]

Yes, most of this challenge is in my head, I just wish I could lose the weight but it seems that no matter what I've tried in the last 12 months, nothing works and yes, I"ve had my thyroid checked it's all good. That photo of me is visual trickery, positions and lighting, even there I was still a solid 17 pounds over my surgeon's goal, 30 over personal.

As someone who has been both smaller and bigger (never skinny) I can say that most of us with weight problems have a mind issue. You are so right about that.

I've found that I can't link my self-worth or beauty to a number on the scale. No matter my size, when I feel good about myself, I tend to attract others who feel good about themselves. When I don't feel good about myself, it doesn't matter my size or weight, I look up and I'm lonely and attract the WRONG people.

I'd say before you try to jump back into getting to a number on the scale or size, work on your head. Get a few books on self-image, self-esteem, etc. Those can help you get out of your head so you don't get in your own way when it comes to your weightloss.

I've had to do that a couple of times. No matter what I tried nothing worked. Then all of a sudden when I started accepting myself and how I felt, the weight would come off. Now, stay off is something different.

You have to believe you are enough regardless of your current weight. You're one of the Vets many of us relative newbies have read and learned from. You are still that same person, only slightly bigger. We value you just the same at your size now that we did at your smaller size before!

[Globetrotter 1,340]

TwinsMama, thank you, you are so supportive, it is meaningful to me, thank you!

In the ongoing saga of Ye Olde Head Case, I am battling a paradox at the moment: I am at least 60 lbs over goal weight, at least 20 lbs heavier than the last time I felt good about myself, and am more out of shape then I have been since surgery - I have not exercised faithfully/regularly in 3 months.

So here's the issue: I need to get to the gym more than I've ever needed to since surgery, yet I am afraid/embarrassed/humiliated/ashamed to go *until* I lose the *extra* weight. So I need to go to the gym in order to lose the weight, but won't go to the gym until I've already lost the weight, wtf...

It makes zero sense, I know, but that's how I feel.

When I was at my best - my lowest weight, my most kick-ass strength, I really felt like I was accomplishing something at the gym because I could feel it in my body. I want so badly to feel that way again but feel like I can't get there without a weight loss jump start, a shock to the system that smacks my metabolism upside the head and goes, "giddyeyup! we're losing weight here!!"

anyway, ramble ramble ramble ...

[RJ'S/beginning 5,358]

Once again you are allowing your brain to dictate what you think you need to do to feel better...The only way for you to go forward is to push it forward...Jump start your program by Protein drinks 4 a day for a few days..I have read on here that that works.....never tried it myself....

I know when I reach my goal or even close all the old fears and demons will surface again...

Right now I look in the mirror and see a horribly obese disgusting person.....I think I always will...I have seen myself like that almost all my life.....

The trade off for me is that I feel better and can do so much more now then I used to. I ask my husband almost everyday if I am gaining weight....I am so frightened of that...And yet I am scared of what the future holds with my body image as well...

It really doesn't matter because it is all in our heads...Everything we do in life is a crossroad....we go this way or that way...Only we can over power our weaknesses and come out stronger for the choices....What is the worst thing that could happen if you just put your head up and said to hell with it all and went to the gym.....Only good things I believe as this is what you need to do to make yourself feel better.....go to the gym!!!!!!!!!

[LipstickLady 25,682]

Right now I look in the mirror and see a horribly obese disgusting person.....I think I always will...I have seen myself like that almost all my life.....

Where do you live? I think I might have to come out there and beat you. For realz.

[RJ'S/beginning 5,358]

Where do you live? I think I might have to come out there and beat you. For realz.

Now now...I thought honesty was the right thing to be on here...I was stating a fact..If you don't agree... I appreciate it.....Your a doll to say so!!

[LipstickLady 25,682]

Now now...I thought honesty was the right thing to be on here...I was stating a fact..If you don't agree... I appreciate it.....Your a doll to say so!!

We need to work on that. You are a beautiful person with a wonderfully warm smile and you need to focus on what you love about yourself. I challenge you to look in the mirror every day and be kind to yourself. Negative self talk is so defeating and drives such bad behavior.

Tell me something you love about you. :wub:

[RJ'S/beginning 5,358]

We need to work on that. You are a beautiful person with a wonderfully warm smile and you need to focus on what you love about yourself. I challenge you to look in the mirror every day and be kind to yourself. Negative self talk is so defeating and drives such bad behavior.

Tell me something you love about you. :wub:

This is not a post about my feelings or thoughts about myself...I used this as an example so that this beautiful lady will not feel alone. I am still here and working hard on my issues as well..That is why I can try to encourage her to see herself in a different light because I have to work on it every day like she does....When your not alone or the only one...sometimes it can help you move forward....that is what I hope with telling her how I see myself....It has not stopped me or defeated me...it is something I work on every day.....K