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I can only hope that after 2 surgeries' date=' it will be enough to kick my ass into gear. I realize that surgery is a tool, but if I had willpower In the 1st place I wouldn't need surgery. Plus what he said about the vsg long term makes me want a better (stronger) surgery.[/quote']

I understand... believe me I do!

Your doctor knows more than me of course, but I would spend some time reading about bypass good bad and ugly.

And also have a conversation with yourself about the power food might still have over you.

Do you see a therapist? If not one that specializes in food addiction would be a good thing no matter what you decide.

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This scares me too! I have always been a grazer and a late night grazer at that! I am only 7 weeks out and have a large capacity for food. I eat less than before but can eat a quarter of a sub (alf of a half) no problem and like you, am hungry a few hours later and can eat the other half of sub. I only had sub because we were on a boat and it was the best option but still I was surprised he much I can eat.

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You of course have to do what you feel is right for you. From my understanding, a bypass is a little harder to live with than the sleeve because of the absorption problems. And there are so many things that play into weight, it is not just about willpower, so don't beat yourself up about that. But, like Laura said, you can sabotage the bypass as well. Best of luck in your decision and I pray that everything works out for you.

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I can not do moderation like some people can. So I try to stay away from certain foods. Carbs like bread? Just makes me want more carbs and it does not keep you full :(

I hate to say it but it's still about choices.

And it will be for the rest of our lives.

No matter what surgery you choose.

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There is no doubt in my mind that I have a food addiction. Food does have a power over me still - although it IS better than before my sleeve. I do not see a therapist but I am certainly open to the idea. Now that I have some insurance I can finally take care of myself.

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There is no doubt in my mind that I have a food addiction. food does have a power over me still - although it IS better than before my sleeve. I do not see a therapist but I am certainly open to the idea. Now that I have some insurance I can finally take care of myself.

I'm glad that's an option now! It's not perfect either (I say that because I go, but have my moments still) but having a trained therapist help you work through it does help.

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I am really going to look into that. I need a way to tackle this in my brain and not just my stomach.

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I can not do moderation like some people can. So I try to stay away from certain foods. Carbs like bread? Just makes me want more carbs and it does not keep you full :(

I hate to say it but it's still about choices.

And it will be for the rest of our lives.

No matter what surgery you choose.

So true! I wish there was a miracle out there. I live in Miami and so many of my friends are pinup perfect bodies. Not just thin but fitness magazine or playboy cover girls! They starve themselves and work out like mad and I wish I could be like them. I know they make good choices to eat clean and exercise religiously but it's been a battle my whole life. I love food! One of my friends said to me (mind you, I was 165 and a size 10 at the time) "you are so lucky your husband doesn't care how you look and loves you for who you are. My husband watches everything I eat. You love food and get to enjoy it"

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I am really going to look into that. I need a way to tackle this in my brain and not just my stomach.

Yes, sometimes I tell people I should of had a lobotomy instead!

You have lost weight don't lose sight of that!

You can do this no matter what you chose :)

It's hard... harder than anything but it can be done.

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One of my friends said to me (mind you' date=' I was 165 and a size 10 at the time) "you are so lucky your husband doesn't care how you look and loves you for who you are. My husband watches everything I eat. You love food and get to enjoy it"[/quote']

Ha! I had a woman say that to me, like I'm a leper and he's a saint!!

That man is lucky to have me! :P

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OP - mindfulness and cognitive behavioral therapy have great tools for battling the "head" hunger. I've been keeping a mindfulness food log since my psych eval and it has actually helped tremendously.

I also know people who have had bypass and a few have regained or never did well to begin with. I think their mentality was "well now I'm thinner so I should be able to eat like a thin person" not realizing that one's body make up and chemistry (hormones, genetics, metabolism, etc) are still mostly the same. We will never be able to eat like the girl who can stuff her face and stay thin. I believe we're just not wired that way. I am not making a judgement about you. Bypass may be a solid option for you and you may be successful with it as long as you go in with as much knowledge and confidence as possible.

Wishing you well!

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Ha! I had a woman say that to me, like I'm a leper and he's a saint!!

That man is lucky to have me! :P

I felt like telling her that she can't starve herself to become pretty! Her face is a bit rough but with makeup and her T&A poking out, most. Men don't care.

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I felt like telling her that she can't starve herself to become pretty! Her face is a bit rough but with makeup and her T&A poking out' date=' most. Men don't care.[/quote']

Hi Riego, I'm in Miami too. Who was ur surgeon?

I'm only 11 days out, but Jacobs was mine. Very happy, healing well.

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Would I need to see a specific type of therapist or would a nutritionist be ok?

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Would I need to see a specific type of therapist or would a nutritionist be ok?

Hi,

A nutritionist is good to help "choose" the right foods. But I think to help the underlying issues of a food disorder a therapist would be a better choice.

Here is an example of a disorder eating therapy center by me..

http://www.eatingdisordersanjose.com/our-therapists/

( Particularly the binge eating)

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