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I'm having a hard time seeing myself 90 lbs lighter' date=' let alone at my goal. I hope my brain catches up with my body soon. It will be a joyous day![/quote']

I feel the same way. I have not had surgery yet, I will late next month =)

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My surgeon says his goal for me is 180. I weigh 189 as of this morning. My own goal is 160. That will put my BMI in normal range. I can't picture either. The 29 lbs vs 9 lbs seems equally unattainable.

You know I never really discussed a "goal weight" with my surgeon. And if he did.

It probably sounded like the teacher in "Charlie brown"

Wha wha wha... Approved

wha wha wha...surgery date :D

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I try really hard to see me at goal. Before surgery' date=' when people who have already undergone weight loss surgery told me this is just as much mental as it is physical - I didn't not believe them, but I blew it off. Now that I'm a few days over four months out & 85.5 pounds down - I see myself as gross, probably now so even more than ever. I feel guilty eating things like low fat, low cal, low carb dressings because I feel like that was one of my issues before surgery (except that nothing before surgery was low fat, low cal, low carb). I'm 5'9" - I still have 70 pounds to go to get to my* goal weight of 170, my MD wants me at 152. I have a hard time seeing me at either of these goals. I think daily, is it really possible for me to get to either of these? I think for this reason, stalls trip me out because I want to continue losing. I still go to the store & buy clothes at pre-surgery size (3-4x) because my mind hasn't come to grips with my physical changes yet. I fit comfortably into L-XL shirts now. Hope goal is possible for me. Working hard everyday, and haven't cheated no bread, Pasta, rice, fattening Condiments, soft drinks, alcohol, fast food, nothing. I don't miss it really (except for alcohol lol) I am happy I'm seeing results, but am not yet where I want to be.[/quote']

I missed this when I was posting!

I just wanted you to know I understand everything you are feeling.

The mental journey as always, is the hardest.

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NO! Good topic! My surgery is Monday. I am so nervous. I am kind of ignoring the fact that I have two three more days! I have never gotten below 170. I am about 205 now. My dr goal is 140. I would like 130, but I just can't see it. I am in a 16 now...I can see me in a 12...and that would be stretching it. If I got to a 10 or lower I would just die. Not really ..I would be so happy and shocked! Having a hard time believing this will be the tool that works dor me. Nothing else has ever worked. I am doing it with high hopes!

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Not having surgery until July 22, but my surgeon's goal for me is 160. I am 5'2" and 160 sounds high. I'm 67 so maybe he makes it higher for old ladies??? I'm thinking 130 would make me happy. Anyway, I haven't been under 200 for so long, it's hard to see myself at either weight. I started out at 257 and am 224 now. I start my two week pre-op on Monday.

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I can't even envision myself right NOW! LOL I think every time I look in the mirror it's like "Whoa.... who IS that?!"

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I started this a size 22 however I was mostly a size 14/16 my entire life so I always see myself as a 14/16. The crazy part was after my surgery I took "before" pics and had no idea I was as big as I was. I just want to be healthy but of course a size 12 would be great too. I can't envision myself any smaller even though my goal weight is 140. This has already been an interesting process....

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