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Is this a normal thought presurgery? I can't stop thinking..what if I die and my kids don't have a mom all because I wanted to be skinny? I'm a nurse so I know the risks of surgery and I actually had a patient once who stroked while having gastric bypass and now she's thin but she poops and drools on herself in a nursing home all day. Does anyone else worry about dying or am I the only nut?

Totally normal, IMO! I didn't really get much in the way of nerves until the moment I was being wheeled into the OR. It was then I just started to sob uncontrollably, terrified I was going to leave my baby motherless. My doctor was amazing, I had absolutely no issues post-op, and am thrilled with my results.

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Any procedure is going to have risk' date=' and it's something that should be considered prior to surgery. I still see the surgery as something that was saving my health. I have diabetes & my blood pressure was high. It was a very slim chance that something was going to happen during surgery. It was a reality that my life was going to be impacted by the diabetes & blood pressure. I tried to lose weight on my own in the past & it came back. This was something that I needed help with & I got it.[/quote']

Hi Andi, like u I view the surgery as saving my health. I also have diabetes and hbp, along with a long list of other things. I'm doing this to get my health straight. If I don't I might not be around for my kids which scares the Crap out of me!

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I felt that way too. I've felt that way any time I go in for surgery. What helps me to move past it is to write letters to my loved ones' date=' especially each of my kids. I know it's morbid, but at least I'm not leaving things unsaid and they'll know I loved them.

The truth is any of us can die any day. We could be hit by a car or have a freak fall. That doesn't keep us from living our lives. Most of us do this to improve our quality of life.[/quote']

I actually thought about writing letters to my three children, but I can't get past the thought. I want to just ball my eyes out thinking about what to say to them. This is especially hard when my 11 year old told me that she didn't want me to have the surgery. I haven't given up the thought I just need to gather my thought together and figure out what I want them to know if I die. So hard to think about....my children are my life and I'm there life too

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Actually ended up in the hospital 2 wks ago (totally wls unrelated) and talked to the social worker. Im only 46 but made out an advance directive just in case. My 46 yr old 1st husband died 6 yrs ago without 1 and I had to make the decision. I don't want to put my husband thru that same thing.

I think the mortality rate for the sleeve is less than .25%. U have a better chance of dying in a car accidnet than having the sleeve done. Everyone knows someone who knows someone who died after bypass.

I understand how u feel. But I think we have a better chance of dying from weight related issues than the surgery itself. Good luck

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Dying during surgery was my only worry. It scares me to be put to sleep and worry about not ever waking up. But I'm still here, alive and kickin'. And 75 pounds lighter!

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I didn't worry about this at all. I was more concerned with dying from obesity related issues than from surgery, after all, the risks were way higher if I had continued without the surgery.

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I think that goes through most of our minds, but we are doing the surgery to live a longer healthier life. The mortality rate nationally is less than 1%. Prior to being sleeved, I had neurosurgery where my surgeon was worried about me at almost 300 lbs. Unfortunately I have had more than my share of surgery over the last 6 years, but I am still here to talk about it. Whatever you decide, I wish you the best.

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Is this a normal thought presurgery? I can't stop thinking..what if I die and my kids don't have a mom all because I wanted to be skinny? I'm a nurse so I know the risks of surgery and I actually had a patient once who stroked while having gastric bypass and now she's thin but she poops and drools on herself in a nursing home all day. Does anyone else worry about dying or am I the only nut?

Ive thought the same and I was the mom and dad to my twin sons, they are the reason that I didnt have surgery til now, who was going to take care of them if "it" were to happen...now several years later my babies are 21 year old grown men on their own, I felt I did the best I could to raise them on my own but now its MY turn to better my health. best of luck to you!

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