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I started my journey at 254 and being only 5ft1 that's a lot of weight to carry I'm now 195 so I'm getting close to my goal of 150. I've noticed the closer I get to goal the more depress I am and mad at myself that I let my weight stop me from living the life I deserved I'm at a shitty job that I hate because I thought I couldn't do any better, I let my hair and apperance go to hello, I dress like a bum, picked real bad relationship and just let people walk over me. Fast forward to now here I am 41 years old and now that I'm losing weight I want better I want a better job, I want to fix myself up I just want to be a better me and to be honest I don't know how, I don't know where to start and its sad that I've been single not even dating due to my weight I didn't want to get close to any man because I stopped believing that there where men that actually liked fat woman and for all of you who have been taken advantage of because your fat and desperate for love you all know what I'm talking about. So I'm going to start by getting to 150 pounds get a complete makeover and read Dr. Phill book LIFE CODE and go back to school probably not in that order but its something I got to do can't waste another yeyear

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My mother had a great number of helpful motivators she always stated to us when needed. You want to accomplish a lot for all the lost time and that is definitely worth pursuing. But life does happen in steps or when opportunities present themselves. SO....My mom would say, "Just DO The Next Indicated Thing, And If You Don't Know What That Is, It Will Be Indicated To You". Oh Yeah! she might also state "Happiness can be found in the journey and not just the destination. I hope you don't spend time on losses long but start moving towards your new desires.

Best wishes to you.

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You have already started.You are repairing yourself.

You are already new inside, it is just a matter of time before the outside catches up. I say that because you see what you've done wrong and are mad about it. You have divorced yourself from your former behavior. Now you need to make a clean break and forgive yourself and move on. Leave the old you behind, you are too busy to kick your own butt over the past, you have a new life to make happen.

As time goes on you will learn to love yourself more and more. You will enjoy being in your skin. Your self respect will draw respect from others. Your air of confidence will draw admiration. You will be less needy but more wanted. You deserve it.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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