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A Rant: Did you not read anything on this site before asking? Are you new here?!



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I'm fairly new around here, and am pre-sleeved, but sometimes I have to smack my forehead seeing the same questions over and over. And seeing the same questions from post-opers who were pre-opers on this site and participated in answering other folks same questions, but now all the sudden they are post-op and have forgotten everything they read.

So here we go... if you've been recently sleeved, here's some things you would have already learned had you actually read some of the other posts first:

- The first few weeks suck..yep, you aren't the only one.

- No you won't feel as much restriction until you start eating real foods...your stomach isn't too big, nor was your bougie bigger than everyone elses.

- Yes, other people have stalled between weeks 3, 4, a few months, and 6 months, and days that end in y...you are not the only one who has ever stalled, so breath easy.

- Yes, that pain in your left shoulder probably is gas...so walk it off. EDIT: If that's not working, seek the advice of your surgeon...most of us are not doctors (some could be...I dunno)

- Yes, other people did experience hair loss at 4ish months out (start taking your Biotin as soon as you are cleared for Vitamins if you haven't already been taking them)...if it's falling out now, it's too late to prevent it, so make sure you are eating enough Protein and taking your Vitamins so it grows back.

- "I've lost X pounds in X weeks...is that normal?" Gees Louise...everyone on this site is different. Our ages are different, our height, our starting weights, our preop loses,our genetics, the amount of time we've been obese, what we are actually eating, our workouts...there is no "normal", so stop asking. If you have lost and are losing, you are doing just fine...if you are in a stall, hang in there...

- "Should I be able to eat this much?" Whether you should be able to or not, you are...so this question is negated. Don't try to eat as much as you can just to see how much you can eat.

- Yes, you probably will have loose skin (depends again on your age, genetics, how long you've been obese, how obese you were, etc....).

- No, blending fruit up into a smoothie is not considered "ok" for full liquids...that's what we call a "puree"

I'm sure there is way more to add to this list, so feel free to.... I just feel like we see the same questions over and over and over and over and over and over...ha

End rant ;)

I'm sure I have asked redundant questions myself, and will.... but I do try to use that thing they call "Search" or Google... Thanks to all you post-sleevers who constantly answer the same questions over and over with grace and patience ;)

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Heh. I did my research rather than asking the little things at the beginning, but I try to answer people who are freaking out... at least if I have the information. :-D

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Thanks to all you post-sleevers who constantly answer the same questions over and over with grace and patience ;)

Your welcome :D

Oh you forgot "when can I have a cheeseburger and a diet coke" :P

Answer... Not in the purée stage!

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OMG thank you for this post. Some of the questions are ridiculous and I swear they don't even to attempt to search the forum for the answer: that has already probably been posted 100 times!!

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There's a reason people ask these questions. Just in case something IS out of the ordinary. For instance, the pain in my left shoulder was NOT gas pain. After a full week of severe pain, and being constantly told it was gas, the surgeon and I discovered it actually was the end of the drain tube poking my diaphragm, causing referred pain. The moment he removed the drain the pain was gone.

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There's a reason people ask these questions. Just in case something IS out of the ordinary. For instance, the pain in my left shoulder was NOT gas pain. After a full week of severe pain, and being constantly told it was gas, the surgeon and I discovered it actually was the end of the drain tube poking my diaphragm, causing referred pain. The moment he removed the drain the pain was gone.

Glad you figured it out with your surgeon... they are the source for real info if anything seems off.

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You're not the only one who has started a thread like this and you won't be the last. The questions asked on this forum will still be the same.

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Glad you figured it out with your surgeon... they are the source for real info if anything seems off.

I don't know about that I much rather listen to some random person on the Internet.

Why just the other day my surgeon told me I shouldn't eat certain things and I thought "that's weird"

So I posted the question here.... And sure enough LOTS of people were still eating it and they were fine!

Stupid surgeon......

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You're not the only one who has started a thread like this and you won't be the last. The questions asked on this forum will still be the same.

Haha ain't that the truth!

But they are fun every two weeks when they come up.

Ok I'm just wasting time here trying to avoid cooking dinner for those ingrates I call my family!

:P

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Be careful what you wish for....this forum may well disappear...lol!

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You're not the only one who has started a thread like this and you won't be the last. The questions asked on this forum will still be the same.

Dang! I knew I asked redundant questions... but I really enjoy the Rant & Rave forum anyway... there's just something about a good rant and rave that makes ya feel good. ahhhh...

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I totally understand you're rant. The questions can be redundant on here sometimes. However, the answers could always be a little different. People active on these boards rotate a lot and I sometimes like revisiting to read the new answers. Or, if I see that it's likely super redundant, I just choose not to read the post at all!

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