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I am sorry I can see your frustration with the term "tool" but that is exactly how I look at it. It is a tool that I am using to prolong and possibly save my life. If I do not use my "tool" to its fullest extent it will quit working for me and I will put the weight back on and probably get back all of my co-morbidities. This was a major surgery but it is not going to work for me if I don't change my relationship with food and figure out what triggers me to eat junk, to eat when not hungry, etc. The surgery in and of itself is not going to be a "miracle" where I will never have to watch what I eat or never exercise, etc. It is just a "tool" to get me to a healthier, happier me.

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All apologies but it is a tool. Look up the definition of tool. It is a replacement solution to all the diets that didn't/don't work and helps control my appetite and amount of food I am able to consume. I looked at it as a tool in deciding to get it and the exact word my surgeon and primary care physician used to describe it and educate me.

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@cinn ...i agree with your way of thinking..i may not know what the future holds for me completely, anything is possibable, but i sûre know what my past looks like, and that i can look at honestly...and make decisions on what i can change to possibly get à better chance in life to be productive again. And of course with changes comes guidelines to follower..eyes wide open...

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Oh i did clearly address the issue of "tool"...for me yes since i was educated on the subject, the term tool have been used...seeing this post also educated me on another view point which i understood aready how serious of à décision this will be for me. Im to the point right now, whatever it is called is fine with me, im so gratful thats its available to me now and i know the risks of having it as well as the risk if i dont, just as well as it will not be easy and im making à lifetime committment. And resources are available for me on this journey in here and outside, but its up to me to stay on top of my needs..and its time i do something for me, making me priorty was the start for me, my date is june 18, keep à eye out for me, i will be here soaking up all the info and support i can find....have à wonderful day ....

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I lost my dad when he was 43 and I was 18. We were estranged since I was 7 and it is one of my life regrets even though it was not my fault. He is one of the reasons I got this surgery. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm thankful that as you say, your father lived a full life.

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All the sleeve is is something to help you lose weight. If I start eating small portions of McDonald's everyday, then yes, I will gain.

The sleeve is a tool designed to assist you in losing weight. Sure, it's major surgery, it's my first surgery, but realistically, smaller portions DO NOT = weight loss. You can start drinking milkshakes at every meal, along with chips and crackers, and in 2 weeks, you'll see exactly why that is.

I'm not going to stop calling my sleeve a tool. My sleeve helps me, it doesn't do all the work for me. I also have to put thought into what I eat and what I drink. Exercise is another tool.

I am sorry for your loss. The loss of a parent is hard, I lost my mother at a young age.

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I am so sorry for your loss, AussieLady.

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I completely agree that calling this a tool is oversimplifying the surgery. But if you don't call it that, people tend to think this is a miracle surgery that requires no effort on their part. It is a major surgery, one that could kill you. I had my surgery on Thursday and one of the other patients died on the table. My heart rate slowed to 40 with my bp being 80/40. I'm thankful I made it through, but it could have just as easily been that my heart stopped. I didn't consider these possibilities too much when I was pre-op! Now I'm just thankful to be alive and that every day is getting better.

But yes, there are many risk factors involved with this, few of which were discussed. Patients want to lose weight, surgeons want to make money, and while they try to minimize complications, the fact is that fat people are very, very risky surgical patients.

I'm glad to be one of the lucky ones.

I completely agree with you. It is a very risky procedure and people lose their lives. Calling it a tool does kind of oversimplify the procedure when in fact it is very dangerous and not everyone is as lucky. Complications do arise that may mean more surgery and/or in worst cases, lives are lost. I call it a tool so people don't think I took the easy way out. WLS is usually associated with trying to lose weight the easiest way. This is not the easy way out and it does require a lot of effort on our part. That's what many people do not understand and will never understand unless they've gone through the procedure.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
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      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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