13+ Months Out, Still Struggling

[Vixynne 695]

Are there post-bariatric surgery support groups in your area? One of my surgeon's requirements is that his patients stay "in his program" for at least five years after being sleeved (same for lapband and RNY patients). There are support groups that meet once a month, along with lots of seminars with information about post-WLS issues (how to get enough Protein, making lifestyle changes, etc.). A newsletter delivers the topics, dates and locations--does your hospital have any resources you can tap into?

If not, don't despair. I've only been on the VST forums for a week, I'm pre-op, and I can already sense how supportive this community is. You've done the very hardest thing already--owning up to your feelings and actions from the past. That should help you feel strong enough to conquer whatever's in your way.

You're not a passive spectator to life any more; you've been given exactly the right equipment to jump in and grab your happiness back. You may have to wrestle for it, but you'll win, I know you will!

[Dooter 1,457]

Awwww, I feel for ya, sugar pants!!! After the "honeymoon" was over- my old demons reared their ugly heads and we've been in a battle ever since. I started at 349. I'm now at 248 and have been there for months and months. I exercise like a fool. I use My fitness pal to track food. Right now, that's all just keeping me where I am. It's a war, honey. Fight it. Win it. No one can do it for you, and no one can do it for me. I'm in this trench and only I can get me out. That's what I had to realize. I hope you find your inspiration and motivation to push through. Only you can find what that is. Hugs to you.

[VitaleEM 44]

I'm in the same boat! I'm six. I'm six months out and I've only lost 40 pounds and I've been stalled for about two months. I'm doing everything right...... It's so maddening!

[lowe1961 45]

Omg im so glad i saw this post. I thought I was the only one that had struggels. I was sleeved July 11 2012. I have only lost 53 pounds. It has not been a easy road. My husband is over weight. And like you say he supports me but not really. He wants to eat out all the time. And i hate to cook so it does not take much to get me to go . I hate to exercise. I do like to ride bikes. So i bought me a spin bike. And i listen to my music while i ride my bike. I started just doing it for 10 min each day. Then i worked up to 60 minuntes 6 days a week. I can tell you I get grumpy if i dont get my ride in. I think it just makes my head feel better. Its a way to get away from all my worrys. I have been trying to figure this out, I try to eat at least 80 grams of Protein a day. I have to really watch the carbs. I feel like im addicted to them again.

For the first time in my life I am putting myself first. I told my husband we can only go out to eat 1x a week. And I have stuck to it. I am tired of being unhealthy, and if he does not want to join me then he will pay the price for it.

I work from home and food is all around me. I did go and buy a small tote for my husband and it sits on my frig. I put his junk foods in there. If i dont see it im ok not to eat it.

I buy skinny pop , Peanut Butter , rice cakes, Protein Bars, almonds. I try to make them my snack food if i have to have something.

I eat my protine first , i eat off a small plate and i use a childs fork to eat with.

Just this week i started to only eat at my kitchen table and i turn everything off and i just try to focus on my food. I am a fast eater and I dont chew my food up. So I hope maybe this will help to jump start my weight loss.

Im on my fitness pal and i log my food on there. Its nice to see the diary's of other people that will give you some ideas on what to eat. Im only friends with people that have had the surgery on my Fitness pal. Except for my daughter. If you deside to sign up my name is

lowe1961. Good luck , I know we can do this. However it is much harder then I thought. I guess I really didnt expect it to be hard.

[No game 14,436]

I love the small tote idea for his junk food in the refrigerator! Out of sit out of mind!

[bailey111110 1]

I can honestly say I use to hate exercise but since the sleeve 1/23 I joined the gym with a year membership and somedays I can't wait to get to the gym and other days you have to pry me off the couch. But just losing the 91 pounds I have I feel I owe it to my body to tone up and exercise. I do drink VERY little pop almost everyday but that's my limit. You can't feel completely torn from the high calories u do need to reward yourself along the way. I refuse to try chocolate or any junk food I just assume it will make me sick because I really don't want to know because I don't wanna put myself in that situation. I did try some icecream but threw it away after 2 bites because I didn't want to make myself sick or like it to much to make myself want it all the time. I did notice my weight loss slowed down alot since I added some pop daily but I don't wanna feel like I can't be like others and enjoy. I know its hard but deep down inside u have to really want to change your ways of eating. I have my mind set and will only allow myself to go so far. My boyfriend eats fast food a lot and it actually makes me sick now. Good luck and I can try to help in anyway possible.

[SeriouslyChange 319]

I'm glad you posted. It takes courage to admit that you're not perfect.

Try to focus on your goal. Perhaps take a walk or 2 a week. Small steps will help you go miles!

And choose lower calorie things to eat. Your taste buds will adjust again.