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I totally understood what she meant, no misunderstanding here.... Bunch of peverts ;)

I have to say with a very slender and attractive wife who did love me regardless of my size, sex or loss of sex was never an issue. Things got a little more creative to make it work as my weight went up but it didn't slow things down.

But now that my weight is close to normal she has alternated between totally into it, to totally uninterested. Thankfully, mostly into it though. I really think people underestimate how much weight and our own health plays into sex. Even with a totally supportive spouse just the mechanics of it, and our own inhibitions and thoughts affect it. One of the positive effects of this surgery that goes frequently unmentioned outside this forum.

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That's great ;) I love u have courage to tell us that! I'm only 2 weeks out and when my hubby and I have sex it's quick yep right get off kind of thing' date=' because of my weight!! But I can't wait to get really into it once I look amazing! I have a question tho since ur had surgery a while back.. What happens with the excess skin? I was 104 post op and in 2 weeks down to 92 and worried about my skin?[/quote']

104 down to 92? Lbs? I hope you are only 3 feet talk. :l

OP - that's awesome! Continue enjoying your new body! :)

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You go!

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Interesting.

Hehe looks like Joseph was a very busy young man last night after seeing him on this and another sex thread getting quite excited...

I guess we should remember that there are young people here too :o

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Warning TMI alert! OMG! I'm not sure if its because of the weight loss but tonight for the first time in over 2 years my husband came onto me! He initiated sex all on his own and he had no trouble getting "prepared". I'm literally in tears over the shock and excitement. He never initiates sex nor does he show any desire to be with me. Maybe it was the weight loss or maybe the new dress but he NOTICED me and actually liked it. I can't believe it. I'm still in shock. We had hot sweaty sex before I almost had a heart attack. Lmbo. I didn't want to freak him out and start crying.

Lburtie4, you are a beautiful lady. I'm happy that ur husband made advances towards you but I think we all need to remember that just because we were heavier ppl- we should still have a positive self esteem. We are still the same ppl just on a journey to be slimmer ppl. If you weight loss is going to help your marriage I say keep up the good work but remember marriage is supposed to be for better or worst. Don't loss sense of who. Hopefully you will have more and more nites of hot, steamy love making. :)

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You're so very gorgeous and I'm glad your husband made a move- a positive move! :)

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Lmao!!! I kept reading "came into me" instead of "came onto me"

I had to read it three times before I got it right!

Damn dyslexia!!

I was like wow yeah TMI!! :P

Anyway I'm happy for your new found intimacy with the husband' date=' it's one if those many perks![/quote']

Hahahah that's how I read it as well!!! I was like wow that's really personal haha.

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You all are way too kind. Thx for the encouragement.

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My boyfriend seems hornier too.

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