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I'm 35 and have been obese for the last 15 years. I remember always being aroused and ready for it in my teens (when I wasn't getting it). But the last 10 years my interest is gone. I don't know if my weight is to blame or my body image or the PCOS. I had a hysterectomy in 2011 due to uterine cancer. But this problem started way before that. I'm on estrogen and not having any symptoms that its too low or high a dose.

I just never think about it, never get aroused. I can be convinced, but not as often as he would like. And orgasm is fine (and fun) when we have sex. It is just never what is on my mind. Id rather read or sleep! I think he feels like he has been really patient but I feel so much pressure.

I have read books on this. Read and watched porn. Tried exercises. Special lubes. Lingerie (awful at this weight). Different positions. Nothing seems to work. So I hope it's the belly fat and the cortisol and that there is hope.

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All I can say is mine did!! :-D

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Did you have a total hysterectomy? Ovaries gone? If so, then what you are missing is testosterone. Testosterone is what is responsible for libido in both men and women, and is made primarily in the ovaries in women.

If this is your case, you may want to speak to your physician about changing your hormone therapy to include testosterone. I used to take Estratest, which was an estrogen plus testosterone. It did indeed restore the libido.

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Did you have a total hysterectomy? Ovaries gone? If so' date=' then what you are missing is testosterone. Testosterone is what is responsible for libido in both men and women, and is made primarily in the ovaries in women.

If this is your case, you may want to speak to your physician about changing your hormone therapy to include testosterone. I used to take Estratest, which was an estrogen plus testosterone. It did indeed restore the libido.[/quote']

What is the dosage of testosterone you take , I am planning to put some of my testosterone gel in wifey's body lotion but I don't want to over do it!

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That was years ago, sorry I cant remember!

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What is the dosage of testosterone you take , I am planning to put some of my testosterone gel in wifey's body lotion but I don't want to over do it!

Probably not a good idea. Based on some studies, certain classes of women were advised to cease testosterone therapy, and I was one of them. I forget what the concern was, but you really should let a doctor handle this. Dont mean to be preachy, just saying...

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Probably not a good idea. Based on some studies' date=' certain classes of women were advised to cease testosterone therapy, and I was one of them. I forget what the concern was, but you really should let a doctor handle this. Dont mean to be preachy, just saying...[/quote']

True,I suppose it wouldn't be much fun if she grew a beard or could kick my butt! Well at least the beard part

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Did you have a total hysterectomy? Ovaries gone? If so' date=' then what you are missing is testosterone. Testosterone is what is responsible for libido in both men and women, and is made primarily in the ovaries in women.

If this is your case, you may want to speak to your physician about changing your hormone therapy to include testosterone. I used to take Estratest, which was an estrogen plus testosterone. It did indeed restore the libido.[/quote']

My facial hair problem tells me I have too much testosterone still. Also apparently your body knows how to convert estrogen to testosterone. So I dunno. But maybe.

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Did you have a total hysterectomy? Ovaries gone? If so' date=' then what you are missing is testosterone. Testosterone is what is responsible for libido in both men and women, and is made primarily in the ovaries in women.

If this is your case, you may want to speak to your physician about changing your hormone therapy to include testosterone. I used to take Estratest, which was an estrogen plus testosterone. It did indeed restore the libido.[/quote']

Also I would buy the testosterone theory if the libidos problems weren't going on 12 years before the hyst.

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