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It's a bunch of things' date=' hearts, cats, Bert and Ernie my fave. It's called the remix.[/quote']

I had Bert and Ernie earlier today... But it looked silly when I started getting chicken neck up in here.... :P

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Wow, folks....take a breath!! This is a support forum.... the goal is to support each other. If you don't feel that you can lend support to a particular posting, just read it and move on. Each of us has experienced enough negativity and judgement in our lives. Let's not add to it here.

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Yea, I heard it all too. Your not that big, or your proportioned( meaning your fat all over). I had verticals sleeve at 64 so I can dance at my grand children's weddings!

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Wow' date=' folks....take a breath!! This is a support forum.... the goal is to support each other. If you don't feel that you can lend support to a particular posting, just read it and move on. Each of us has experienced enough negativity and judgement in our lives. Let's not add to it here.[/quote']

I think you are right in a sense.. But looking back at this abomination of a thread, it was started to elicited a certain response, as was confirmed by the op... I fell for it (as did others) and the op got the attention she needed, I hope she feels like she got whatever she needed off her chest and is feeling better about this internal struggle she's having at making her decision.

Yea' date=' I heard it all too. Your not that big, or your proportioned( meaning your fat all over). I had verticals sleeve at 64 so I can dance at my grand children's weddings![/quote']

I think a lot of us (no matter what our bmi's were) heard this same thing pre op from lots of people.

This morning I ran into a friend who had said that same thing to me, the first thing she said "wow you look great, you look so much healthier and glowing"

Go figure I guess I was big enough after all :P

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I think your insurance companies over there might have given you guys this 'am I worthy of VSG' mindset. They seem to want to make you jump so many hurdles and have created categories from what I can tell 'over 40 BMI' or 'over 35 with bad enough co morbidity's' blah

I started with a BMI of 41. I assume my struggles over time have been similar or the same as someone with a BMI of 55 or someone with a BMI of 35. The scale of some of the problems might be different, but still the same.

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Die, thread ...die.

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I think your insurance companies over there might have given you guys this 'am I worthy of VSG' mindset. They seem to want to make you jump so many hurdles and have created categories from what I can tell 'over 40 BMI' or 'over 35 with bad enough co morbidity's' blah

I started with a BMI of 41. I assume my struggles over time have been similar or the same as someone with a BMI of 55 or someone with a BMI of 35. The scale of some of the problems might be different' date=' but still the same.[/quote']

Dean can anyone have it done there??

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Dean can anyone have it done there??

Yeah, if you find a surgeon that will do it, on your health insurance claim form it doesn't even ask about your weight or any health questions really. If a surgeon says you need it, they cover it.

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To me 'bean counters' should be the last ones deciding if people should have surgery!

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Yeah' date=' if you find a surgeon that will do it, on your health insurance claim form it doesn't even ask about your weight or any health questions really. If a surgeon says you need it, they cover it.[/quote']

Nice! I guess here for some yes they have hoops like the six month thing., not with my insurance though I was lucky I just made an appointment with a surgeon and was approved (40 bmi)

But I agree our health care (insurance companies) suck big fat donkey...

I'm not sure if the rules are at fault though for making someone feel that their fat is different from my fat... Fat is fat is fat.

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But you know what??? Who cares if you need it it should be an option...

Dean getting ready for camping?

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Yep, sorting through the gear this weekend to leave on Tuesday :) :)

When's spring break? Are you off soon?

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In two weeks! Beach camping too! I guess there will be no s'mores this trip for me though!!

Hehe the first thing I think if is camping treats!!

Oh and s'mores are another discusting American

Treat :o

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Better or worse than Peanut Butter cups??? :P

NB - this thread has been hijacked deliberately because it needed it badly ;):lol:

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      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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