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So my husband and I had "the talk" and...



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... he's 100% supportive of my decision to pursue VSG!

Although I have been "quietly" researching this on my own for quite a while, I hadn't yet talked it over with him, mostly for two reasons... first, I really didn't think I could go b/c we have special needs twins that require all hands on care from both of us and two, my husband is so protective of me, I didn't think he would let me go to MX on my own.

However, I was stupid to think I was researching secretly... this morning, HE brought it up and he said he's known for over a month that I was looking into this b/c I have left myself logged into this forum many times on my iPad and it's been the first screen which popped up every time he has used my iPad! lol! He also recognizes that I give 2000% to our children and that he wants me to feel happy, energetic, confident... heck, maybe even a little sexy! He told me he wants me to do this for me and as soon as I want to!

I could not have asked for more... I am so excited and a bit tearful that he continues to show his love and concern for me like this even after 26 years of being together (2 dating, 2 engaged, 22 married!)!

I already have dr. clearance to go so just looking at dates, flights, and child care and then it will happen!

Today is a good day!

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That is amazing! Is t it so nice to have a spouse who's onboard! I was worried also about my hubby because he's pretty overprotective also. But he's the same way, he wants his happy, healthy wife back. He also told me he doesn't see that I'm that heavy, and it doesn't bother him but that he knows it bothers me 24/7 and sees my struggles and wants me to be happy again.

Good for you, keep us updated!!

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So happy for you! You do deserve it! And maybe him finding out and having time to process your thoughts and this information was a good thing. The shock factor was not there. Awesome that you are in such a fantastic relationship! Best wishes to you!

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Best of luck to you also.. my hubby was not only on board.. but had the same surgery a week after I did.. so we are in this together... and he is my biggest supporter and I am his.. he is the one who brought up the surgery and did the research on it.. .he wanted us both to be happy and healthy.. I love him so much.. and this has been the best thing we ever have done.. granted he is looking fantastic..and lost faster than I have cuz the men do that.. but still ... we are taking a cruise as a reward for how great we are looking.. we have both lost 60lbs each since dec. .. so its a great thing to have a live in supporter.. congrats...

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Having a supportive partner is extremely important and rewarding..... CONGRAT'S! :)

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@ NancyDec20... I am so happy for YOU! You are right about men losing faster... my husband has been doing a Biggest Loser challenge sponsored by our city hospital as he is also heavy... since starting on Jan. 8th, he has lost about 30 lbs just be curbing his bad food habits and working out ONCE a week with a trainer for an hour! He is looking/feeling great with about 30 lbs to go, but it seems so easy for him... he recognizes that it IS different for us and wants me to be as happy and healthy as he is getting - we will just take different paths to that goal!

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Good for you and your supportive family! The Self Pay/Mexico forum has a wealth of info and experiences.

Amanda Rae

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Such a sweet story! Thanks for sharing, and good luck to you!

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That is so awesome!! To have a man who supports your hopes and dreams is wonderful! :) I look forward to following your journey! :)

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