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This is a totally different type of thread than the inspiring ones I've been reading for the last month.

I want to see what people, if anything, will miss about being big / overweight. I think the immediate answer that comes to most people's minds would be "nothing". But, as I've been overweight since I was 6yrs old, and since it's been so much a part of my identity, there are a few things I think I will miss.

Please bear in mind that this thread is not intended to question my or anyone else's decision AT ALL. I am stoked about making a life altering change one week from today (surgery date 3/7). I will experience so many things in life that I've been missing out on. That said...

People remember me. Granted, the attention is probably not positive, but it's still there - not unlike a kid acting up for negative attention. In my job, I, more often than most, run into old faces from high school, and they remember my name. I was the fat kid, and by the, that is not a misnomer. There was probably one other person growing up in my school that had the same level of weight problem as I did. So, I stuck out like the proverbial sore thumb. But, I never go unrecognized. I think a part of me will miss that.

What I will definitely miss is not knowing whether any new friends I make in the future really like me for me. Would they still like me if I was 150lbs heavier? Because my current friends do. I've had steady friendships since elementary school, and though I'm sure they have been concerned for my health, they have never cared about the excess pounds. I think, as a fat kid growing up, I've actually been able to sustain tighter relationships with people because the people I identified with, and who me, were never the superficial type.

And, to end on a lighter (pun intended?) note, I'm really gonna miss my gut serving as a hand warmer!

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I miss being invisible. I am a bit shy, introverted, convinced that the first thing people notice about me is how fat I am.

Having lost even a bit of weight has me getting more attention. And I'm not really okay with it yet.

I'm working on it though, and happy, I try to speak up more, but old habits die hard

I also tuck my hand under my roll to warm it up. Now I can just put my tips under compared to my whole hand from before

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Sadly, I'm going to miss being able to make fun of myself. My weight has always been a huge comedic monologue for me

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I seriously do not think I will miss anything, I've said it before and will say it again, What you see is what you get. I'm basically the same person just smaller.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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